Mel Schilling author of The C* Word (Confidence)

The Merry Menopause Bookclub

I am joined for this episode by the fabulous Mel Schilling. Human behaviour and performance specialist and Married at First Sight relationship expert Mel Schilling talks to me about her new book The C* Word.

Mel draws on her 20-year background in psychology, with this empowering and practical guide to making friends with our fear, tackling imposter syndrome and building the skills of confidence to enhance every aspect of our lives.

Join us as we delve into:-

• How can we rebuild our confidence in midlife.
• Brain fog and hot flushes - two of the biggest reasons that so many of us lose our confidence. Mel openly shares her experience of both of these whilst filming live TV.
• How humour can be a great asset in re-building confidence
• Mel opens up about her own journey with brain fog and her decision to start hormone replacement therapy (HRT) to manage it.
• We discuss coaching techniques that can help overcome brain fog, anxiety, and hot flushes, particularly when dealing with presentations or public speaking.
• We explore self-worth in midlife and the feeling of invisibility that many of us experience during this phase of life.
• Addressing negative self-talk and techniques to re-wire our brains and be kinder to ourselves.
• Mel reveals how our body has an identical response to "I am scared" to "I am excited" and how to recognise these feelings and make them work to our advantage.
• Midlife dating advice from the expert! Mel gives me her expert advice on navigating midlife dating - which apps to use, getting clear on dating goals, recognising 'red flags', and the difference between 'deal breakers' for a relationship vs personal preferences.
• Are you dating un-cooked men too?!
• Mel shares her own experience of online dating, where she met her husband.

Mel’s Book recommendation - Great Sex Starts at 50 by Tracey Cox.

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