34. I Dated A Narcissist For 6 Years

Shit We Don't Tell Mom

What is it like to date a narcissist? What happens when you get triggered by other people’s breakup? Living with depression and bipolar, we sometimes wonder if we are the “bad” person in a relationship. So when a narcissist who seems like the “perfect” person comes along and gaslights you, you might end up believing them. Angie shares how she felt during her 6-year relationship with a narcissist and how she was triggered by a famous YouTube couple that recently broke up.

Takeaway:

• Narcissistic people will always portray themselves as "perfect" so other ppl will be on their side
• Always go with your gut feelings; they're there to protect you
• You can never fully judge the quality of someone else's relationship just by looking from the outside
• Love bombing: when you're being showered with love and affection only to have the person stop so they can manipulate you with their "love".
• Trauma bonding: bonding over shared trauma without seeking other perspectives can be harmful
• Narcissists use tactics to control you and their own image
• It's better to offer a friend perspectives rather than always agreeing with them
• Overanalyzing a situation can cause you more pain

Mentions & Resources:

• Love Bombing - The Narcissist Abuse Cycle (blog)

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