How to reduce 'stress' in relationships

Principles into Practice with Kain Ramsay

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” C Jung Relationships are the 'Cornerstone' of life and no matter what we say or think about them, we all need and crave them. It's not those superficial or meaningless relationships we crave, but the ones of meaning and depth in which we are able to be free and fully be ourselves. These kinds of relationships can be few and far between! In this Lecture I've attempted to illustrate where the stress that many of us experience in the context of our relationships can stem from. When we place expectations on other people (either too high or too low) we are fundamentally judging them which can always be felt and will generally always be responded to in ways that will very seldom met our personal standards. Learning to manage our expectations of others is key to the development of healthier relationships and the condition of our very own mental and emotional wellbeing. We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different degree's of wrong people. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to fully understand your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems (the ones that make you who you are) that you’re ready to find your lifelong mate. We can only begin to reduce the stress in our relationships when we fully realise and accept that no-one is perfect and everyone has a different story to tell. It's in understanding these stories that develop the understanding and trust that the healthiest relationships are built upon. Kain http://www.kainramsay.com