85. What Secure Attachment Really Feels Like (It’s Not What You Think)

Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Think secure attachment means you're calm, confident, and unbothered all the time? Think again. In this powerful coaching call, I sit down with Steph (one of our Relationship Reboot members) to unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of the healing journey: what secure attachment actually feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always comfortable. In fact, sometimes it means saying no when you want to say yes, letting go of that savior complex at work, and learning to sit with your own limitations without spiraling into shame.

We dig into how to stop taking on everyone else's stress, why perfectionism keeps you stuck, and what it really looks like to choose yourself. One small boundary at a time.

You might want to listen if:

• You say no... and instantly want to take it back
• You're tired of managing everyone else's emotions just to feel safe
• You keep trying to “fix” people at work (and it’s not working)
• You feel guilty when you can't finish everything on your to-do list
• You're still confused about what secure attachment is supposed to feel like

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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

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1. Introduction to Speak Honest Podcast (00:00:00)

2. Coaching Call with Steph Begins (00:00:49)

3. What Secure Attachment Really Feels Like (00:03:11)

4. Managing Others' Stress vs. Your Own (00:09:35)

5. Handling Workplace Stress and Backlogs (00:18:02)

6. Caterpillar Blocks: Releasing Your Lists (00:27:47)

7. Honoring Your Limitations (00:34:27)

8. Final Thoughts and Episode Wrap-up (00:40:15)