Procrastination - Putting Off the Inevitable

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Do you generally tend to put things off in your life? We are all familiar with undertaking some tasks that we are not too keen on. Procrastinating doesn't mean that you are lazy, in fact often the opposite is true. Many people's houses are the tidiest when an uncomfortable task has to be avoided at all costs, e.g. having to study for exams or having to have a conversation with friend, colleague or partner about their troubling behaviour.
Rather than being a question of laziness, procrastination is often more about avoiding the engagement with troublesome emotions.
Procrastination is frequently driven by an an underlying anxiety: that you cannot do something well enough or that the person you need to talk to might not react well. Procrastination is a form of avoidance: we avoid what we don't enjoy or that we fear.
Procrastination is often linked to perfectionism. The underlying fear is that the task cannot be done well enough.
With procrastination the only way forward is to acknowledge the underlying emotions and to get going. This involves being able to tolerate uncomfortable feelings. How to break the pattern of procrastination?
We discuss some strategies like the time management technique Pomodoro, that you might employ to break your habit of procrastination.
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