Why You Must Teach People How They Should Treat You

The Great Girlfriends™️ Show

In this TGG TAKEOVER episode, we’re diving deep into the powerful, life-changing art of setting boundaries. Hosted by Dr. Dolores Tarver, Ebony Young, LPC, and Rev. Amarylis West, this conversation is a masterclass on how boundaries aren’t just a “nice-to-have” — they’re essential to living a life full of self-respect, peace, and empowerment. Whether it’s with family, at work, in romantic relationships, or within your faith community, boundaries are your secret weapon for protecting your energy and advocating for your needs.Setting boundaries can feel hard—especially when it’s with people you love or in environments you’re committed to. But if there’s one thing we learned in this episode, it’s that setting clear boundaries is a form of self-love, and it’s necessary to maintain the respect, peace, and harmony in your life. Buckle up for a no-holds-barred conversation on how to show up fully for yourself, no matter the relationship or situation.Key Takeaways:

1. The Power of Boundaries: Boundaries are essential for teaching others how to treat us, protecting our time, and maintaining our energy. It’s not just about saying “no,” it’s about advocating for what you need and standing firm in it.
2. The Struggles with Loved Ones: Setting boundaries with family and friends can be one of the toughest things we’ll do. The desire to make others happy often leads us to overlook our own needs. The ladies share why this is a recipe for burnout and how to navigate it.
3. Workplace Boundaries: Knowing your rights, communicating your expectations, and staying professional are key in maintaining healthy work relationships. This episode has gems on how to communicate boundaries at work and deal with workplace violations head-on.
4. Romantic Relationships: Setting boundaries in love might feel like walking a tightrope, but it’s crucial for your mental and emotional health. The ladies talk about how healthy relationships can handle boundaries and the importance of mutual respect.
5. Accountability Partners & Exit Strategies: Sometimes, maintaining boundaries requires reinforcements. Accountability partners can help you stick to your limits, and knowing when to step away from toxic relationships or situations is key.

Action Steps:

• Review workplace policies: Take the time to understand your rights and responsibilities in your professional environment.
• Set your boundaries clearly: Don’t just say what you need, communicate it, and follow through with consequences if those boundaries are violated.
• Create an exit strategy: Know when it’s time to walk away from relationships or environments that don’t respect your boundaries.
• Lean on accountability partners: Find a support system to help you maintain and reinforce your boundaries when you need it most.

Issues & Risks:

• Difficulty in setting and maintaining boundaries with loved ones.
• Challenges in clearly communicating boundaries without feeling guilty or selfish.
• The risk of moving the goalposts when boundaries are violated or ignored.
• The dangers of self-diagnosing based on social media trends and how it impacts personal boundaries.

Questions Discussed:

• “Why is it so difficult to maintain a boundary once we’ve set it?”
• “How do I go about addressing boundary violations in spaces like church?”

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