How to Stop the Self-Sabotage and Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment | Episode 245

Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Sometimes people refer to self-sabotage as things like shooting themselves in the foot, not showing up for themselves, or not following through for themselves. This is incredibly common for those of us in recovery. ACA has taught me that another way to refer to self-sabotage is to call it self-abandonment. And this makes sense because as adult children, we were brought up on abandonment so of course we would only learn to abandon ourselves. This week’s episode 245 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop the self-sabotage and get over your fear of abandonment.

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Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• Why it is so common for adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families to self-sabotage or self-abandon themselves.
• Some of the ways we might abandon ourselves.
• 2 important reasons it is helpful to connect this abandonment behavior to our status as adult children.

When you start calling self-sabotage, self-abandonment there is s solution to that. And that solution is becoming your own inner-loving parent.

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1. How to Stop the Self-Sabotage and Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment (00:00:00)

2. Barb Nangle shares about her journey of opening up about her recovery programs, including her involvement in ACA and OA, and how trauma recovery has been a game-changer for her. (00:00:49)

3. Barb Nangle explains how self-abandonment is a legacy of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) and how recognizing this can help in recovery. (00:04:44)

4. Nangle highlights the solution to healing adult child wounds as becoming one's own loving parent, which involves cultivating a kind and supportive inner family and reparenting one's inner child or children. (00:07:03)

5. Barb Nangle identifies self-abandonment as a root cause of trauma and offers solutions for recovery. (00:09:45)