Pick Their Parents Over Me

Why Does My Partner

After money, sex, kids, time and cleaning, in-laws are another topic couples most commonly fight about. “Why do you talk to your mother more than you talk to me? Your mom is in the middle of our relationship.” What could be behind this conflict? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca discuss the several reasons why these issues occur; cultural differences, different families’ expectations of what a family relationship should look like, differences between what your new family wants you to do vs. your family of origin, and the fear of not belonging. Explore what “belonging” can look like for each partner’s family system, how to have that conversation about what needs of yours are unmet by this situation, and learn how to use this conversation as an opportunity to deepen intimacy with your partner.

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