How to Argue Well

The Self-Coaching Club: Turn your ”Inner Bully” into a Trusted Ally

🎧 Show Notes

Episode Title: How to Argue Well: Turning Conflict into Connection
Episode Length: ~20 minutes
Host: Mercy Rice, Self-Coaching Advocate & Inner Work Mentor

Episode Summary:
Ever wish you could say what’s on your mind without it turning into a full-blown argument? In today’s episode, we explore how to argue well—with clarity, compassion, and confidence. Mercy breaks down practical tools like neutral language, “I” statements, and the Facts–Story–Ask model from Crucial Conversations to help you communicate without triggering defenses. You’ll also learn the common pitfalls that derail productive conversations and how to avoid them.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why arguing well is a life skill worth mastering

• The power of neutral, non-blaming language

• How to use “I” statements to express yourself clearly

• The Facts–Story–Ask method to avoid assumptions

• Common traps that shut people down—and how to avoid them

• Self-reflection questions to improve how you show up in tough conversations

Resources Mentioned:

• Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan & Switzler