212. When Others Don’t Move At Your Preferred Pace

The Mindful Healers Podcast with Dr. Jessie Mahoney and Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang

Do you find yourself frustrated when others show up late?

Do you make it mean that others don’t respect you or don’t care when their “timing” and way of working through to-do lists, planning, and chores is different than yours?

We hope this episode will leave you feeling liberated from chronic frustrations around timing, urgency, and the preferred paces of others.

We all have different inner rhythms and preferences. Many of us were taught that there is a right and/or wrong way and/or a “polite” pace.

We have stories about what the pace of others means.

What do you make mismatches in pace mean?

Those of us who work in medicine tend to have an urgency bias and a quick pace. We have painful stories about late patients and respecting our time.

Some people are always late. Some people are always early. It isn't usually about you at all.

When you want someone to be different, move faster, act, or respond differently than they are, you are resisting reality. This usually increases your suffering.

Tips to Respond with more ease and grace when others have a different pace.

• Notice your bodily reactions, expectations, and stories

• Pause and breathe

• Move forward with intention

• Ask your future self for advice.

• Ask what would love do

How might you respond to future timing mismatches with mindfulness and compassion?

Join us for a retreat to practice responding with grace, ease, mindfulness, and compassion to everything in life that doesn't happen your preferred way. This skill is liberating and will change your life for the better every single day.

If you can’t come to a retreat in person, join Jessie for coaching. You will be amazed by how much better your life feels after coaching. Without anyone else changing you will feel much better. www.jessiemahoneymd.com

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*Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.

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