What Relationship Attachment Style Do You Have?

The Connected Community: Exploring Possibility

Nicky Yazbeck, host, speaks with Valerie Rubin, a rapid transformational therapist specializing in anxious attachment, discusses the different attachment styles and their impact on relationships. She explains that anxious attachment can lead to anxiety, fear of abandonment, and difficulty trusting partners. Other attachment styles include secure attachment, fearful avoidant, and dismissive avoidant. Valerie focuses on anxious attachment because it is a common issue that affects relationships. She helps clients heal their attachment wounds, regulate their nervous systems, and develop a secure attachment style. Healing the abandonment wound is crucial for individuals to feel safe and confident in relationships. In this conversation, Valerie Rubin and Nicky Yazbeck discuss techniques for managing anxiety and building self-confidence. Valerie explains that when experiencing high levels of anxiety, it's important to shake out the body and engage in physical activities rather than trying to meditate or journal. She emphasizes the importance of connecting with the body and identifying sensations and emotions when feeling anxious. Valerie also introduces the concept of brain spotting, a technique that helps locate and release trauma memories stored in the body. They also discuss the importance of building self-esteem and confidence through self-care and keeping promises to oneself.

Takeaways:

• Anxious attachment can lead to anxiety, fear of abandonment, and difficulty trusting partners.
• Healing the abandonment wound is crucial for individuals to feel safe and confident in relationships.
• Regulating the nervous system and developing body-based tools can help individuals move out of anxious states.
• Developing a secure attachment style allows individuals to have healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
• When experiencing high levels of anxiety, engage in physical activities to shake out the body and release tension.
• Connect with your body and identify sensations and emotions when feeling anxious.
• Brain spotting is a technique that helps locate and release trauma memories stored in the body.
• Building self-esteem and confidence involves unlearning false beliefs and keeping promises to oneself.
• Self-care and self-trust are essential for building confidence and developing a secure attachment style.

Connect with me:

https://nickyYyoga.com

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Connect with Valerie:

https://spotify.link/WZju7ssazJb

https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/?hl=en

https://m.facebook.com/valerie.rubin.39/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerierubin

Keywords: attachment styles, anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, healing attachment wounds, regulating nervous system, secure relationships, anxiety, self-confidence, body connection, sensations, emotions, brain spotting, trauma healing, self-esteem, self-care