43. Dance of Attachment Part 3: Disorganized Attachment (The Pendulum Swing Dance)

Secure Attachment Secrets: Speak Honest About Trauma & Communication

Ever feel torn between wanting closeness and needing space? In this episode of Speak Honest, We dive into the complexities of disorganized attachment, or what I call “The Pendulum Swing Dance.” Through real-life examples and compassionate insights, we will unpack why disorganized attachment leads to a push-pull dynamic in relationships, where closeness feels both desirable and frightening. Discover how this attachment style develops, how it impacts adult relationships, and practical steps for creating stability in your connections.

You might want to listen if:

• You struggle with a constant back-and-forth between craving intimacy and needing distance
• You feel stuck in a cycle of reaching out for connection, only to withdraw again out of fear
• You want to understand how disorganized attachment might be impacting your relationships
• You find emotional intensity and dysregulation a challenge in your romantic connections
• You’re ready to explore ways to heal attachment wounds and create a secure, fulfilling bond

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