How to Know If Your Relationship is Worth Your Time and Effort | Tom Bilyeu & Lisa Bilyeu

Relationship Theory

You may agree, there is nothing more exhilarating than a brand new relationship. You’re excited, the chemistry is strong, and sexual compatibility is perfect. When the novelty begins to wear off and the 1st week turns into the 1st month, the 1st year and suddenly 5 years or more have passed, where is your excitement level? How is the chemistry and sex life years later for most couples? Tom and Lisa tackle the question, how much do you need to work on the relationship and if chemistry should still be present. The cliff notes version of this is yes! If you want a long lasting healthy relationship, it takes work and it takes more effort than you think. Tom excitedly declares, when you’re with the right person, it can be “the ride of a lifetime.” Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice to help you Build a Beautiful Relationship. SHOW NOTES: Nonstop Work | Tom on why it requires nonstop work to grow and it starts with chemistry [0:42] Chemistry Not Enough | Lisa on why chemistry is needed at first but it’s not enough alone [2:55] Female Chemistry | Women need trust and chemistry to feel sexual gratification [4:19] Put In Work | Tom reflects on how every aspect of life with value requires effort [5:07] Meaning of Work | Why the word “work” has negative connotation. What it really means [6:33] Effort | Swapping the word ‘work’ for ‘effort’ and understanding everything takes effort [8:26] Worth the Effort | Lisa on how marriage hasn’t been easy but it’s been worth the effort [9:50] QUOTES: “There are a number of hours that we have spent having conversations I think neither of us wanted to have. Because they make you feel emotions, you don't want to feel or they're tedious. But oh my god, are they rewarding.” Tom Bilyeu [2:40] “We work very hard to maintain the chemistry to maintain our relationship to maintain our closeness” Lisa Bilyeu [3:55] “We want love to be this magical thing that sort of sits outside of real life, but everything in my life, [...] requires work and focus and effort.” Tom Bilyeu [5:30] “When you make this statement, ‘Oh, I love my job so much. It doesn't even feel like work.’ My thing is that actually almost certainly isn't true. It's that you love something so much, it's worth the work.” Tom Bilyeu [7:47]