Should We Give People The Benefit Of The Doubt?


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Have you ever given someone the benefit of the doubt? What about not giving it to them?

Go down one route, and you’ll experience the world one way. Pick the other and you’ll transform your life!

This episode of Inner Archeology talks about what trusting (or distrusting) others really means and the impact it can have on how you perceive and move through the world.

Key Points In Episode:

  • Do you ever give people the benefit of the doubt? Sarah feels that it’s rooted in a choice about how you want to feel and move through the world.
  • Choose to be trusting toward people and you’ll create a sort of filter that will help you experience things in a positive way. Don’t want to give it to them? Then, be ready to validate your beliefs somehow…
  • Emily believes that the key question you should ask yourself is ‘do I believe people are intending me harm?’
  • Do you want to stop creating a ton of unnecessary suffering and pain for yourself? Stop living as if everybody is intending to harm you, then!
  • Growing up, Sarah heard little white lies all the time in her family. As she grew, she moved through the world thinking that everyone was lying about things all the time.
  • Emily said it best: giving people the benefit of the doubt isn’t so much about what others are doing to you, but rather about the quality of your life.
  • Want another great quote to tweet? Here you go, courtesy of Sarah: ‘Working to give people the benefit of the doubt actually improves your life much more than anything else.’
  • It depends on your personality: you may be trusting toward someone right from the get go or you may not. However, it’s important to be conscious of what you’re doing and of the potential negative narrative you might be creating…
  • Have you ever looked at people passing you by, and realized that they may be going through some hard things like you may be at the moment? Everyone’s life is just as complex as yours. That thought-process is called Sonder.
  • If something is ticking you off right now, take a breather and think. If you think hard enough, you’re probably going to be able to trace it back to the thing that actually affected you in the past and that’s still having that effect on you today.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Inner Archeology Email

Sarah Turner on Instagram

Emily Pennystone on Instagram

@Inner.Archeology on Instagram (video version)

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