When you know the real actual problem, you can address the real actual issue, which will allow you to create real, actual, lasting change. This is a sneak peek into Danny's new Free Video Training that he created for YOU. The Fearless Freedom From Pornography Training: How to Achieve Ultimate Victory Over Porn. Porn is not the actual problem in an …

Hear how Mike Beatty 10x-ed his results compared to previous coaches/therapists/methods he had tried. Live interview with past client. Learn from what worked and didn't' work for Mike. How he created tremendous new success. START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoaching Ready to wo…

How to Release Worry & Achieve Goals More Powerfully (with an Exercise You Can Try while reading) Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marria…

Discover practical mindset shifts to reduce pornography cravings and hear Michael's inspiring journey of breaking free from the habit for good. Whether you're struggling yourself or curious about the topic, this episode offers valuable insights and real-life client examples for lasting change. Tune in now to explore some empowering new mindset shif…

If you failed recently in your effort to quit a porn habit, and you’re telling yourself “Nothing I do will make a difference.” “What I do won’t matter anyway.” Then you need to listen to this podcast episode now. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so go…

So much of unwanted porn use has to do with escaping feelings. But which feelings? The difference between emotions and an actual stress response. Emotions vs. Physical Sensations Trauma vs Stress Response Healing/Processing From Trauma Happens The 4 F’s and How Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn Might Show Up For You 4 F’s Sometimes Helpful and Sometimes …

The following topics help to understand Why Your Brain Overdesires Pornography: -Motivational triad -Upper brain and lower brain -False pleasures vs. natural pleasures Why it’s important to use upper brain more skillfully for decisions around false pleasures (like pornography). 2. If you find yourself in a hurry with your goals to quit porn for goo…

If you stopped measuring your progress toward quitting porn for good based on when you last looked at porn, what would you measure instead? In today's episode, we discuss an example of a process that will help you to: -measure progress more accurately -learn more effectively -accelerate your progress (toward quitting a porn habit for good) Example …

To experience more love, freedom, and empowerment, listen to this episode. If you are not into those things (love/freedom/empowerment), tune out now. This episode is not for you. Reminder: Steer clear of teachers who say they know better for you than you and who foster a continual dependence on them to know what’s best for you. We are talking real …

After listening to this episode, you will know better: -what is creating your current unwanted results -what it takes to create new/wanted results -the difference between the Automatic brain vs. the intellectual part of your brain, with a wild stallion analogy to make it clear -How to make sure your actually retraining your automatic brain and not …

This week's episode gets more specific about what it is that makes coaching work (to give you ideas what you can aim for even if you don't plan to hire a coach). Also, I'm betting more of you will want to hire a coach after hearing this. And we dive into a client example to demonstrate a more effective way of managing thoughts around masturbating t…

Sharing client success stories, including a client saying "Nothing works quite as well as this." And trying to make it more clear what "THIS" actually is. Some of Danny's philosophies on coaching that he uses because it just works. A yoga analogy to describe what it takes to go through a process that works. No matter how long you've had a porn habi…

Real client example today. He thought the problem was that he just "really finds naked women attractive to look at." I asked him why. His response revealed 4 things that are the real issues. Once we address these 4 things, suddenly it's no longer a problem that he finds naked women attractive to look at. Quitting porn for good in a sex-positive way…

“One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity.” -Bruce Lee “Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.” -Antoine de Sainte Exulpery, Pioneer of international postal flight, and author of Le Petit Prince (the little prince) “It i…

One of the lessons being that quitting a porn habit doesn’t have to be a big, hard, dark, serious thing. It can actually be fun, easy, light, humorous and completely doable. Tune into the How to Stop Looking at Porn podcast, with Danny Poelman, now to hear what other lessons were uncovered in this real life coaching session. Available wherever you …

To make decisions powerfully (which is required to learn to quit porn for good), understanding these 4 parts of you that come up in decision-making will make all the difference. We are talking about these 4 parts: -Lower brain -Upper brain -Intuition (body) -Consciousness (you), awareness, power to exercise agency, or will When you understand the s…

Most people trying to quit a pornography habit for good do it by trying to avoid situations where they may have access to porn or be triggered to have urges to view it. It's time to understand why you should go toward those triggers (and access) for pornography. But only if you want to experience true freedom from this thing called "pornography." T…

How do you approach a problem if you don’t believe there is a solution to it? How to recognize this mentality and the different forms it might show up in. Why Voldemort wanted the Horcruxes to remain a secret. Addressing the roots of the weed rather than just continually cutting the top off, only to find it growing back again and again. What happen…

What chains are we breaking today? The message “I’m bad.” Where does this come from? Does it help to think this way? What helps create forward movement for you? In this episode, I’m talking about a message that, if you are like a lot of us, you have probably internalized (whether on purpose or not). And it just might be holding you back. A couple c…

Many of us have learned that more shame and self-punishment is what is required to create more power/motivation to change our habits. The truth is, less shame helps us to access even more power/motivation to change our habits. Why do we do this? How do we start picking up on our unconscious patterns? How do we make it easier to access more of your …

I teach guys powerful, useable, practical, hands-on tools for managing their mind. Some of those tools include: -Thought Work -the Self-Coaching Model -Impulse Shifting Why is managing your mind important? Because thoughts create results. A lot of my clients first learn about these powerful mind-management tools because they have a porn habit that …

Past client updates me, saying: “I am very satisfied with the progress I've made and continue to make. Urges are way down, short lived, and manageable.” Why can habitual behavior around porn feel so automatic? Your lower brain wants to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and be energy efficient. One of the ways your lower brain is energy efficient is by aut…

Common ways we have learned to interact with feelings that make it harder to quit a porn habit. The difference between avoiding, resisting, and reacting to emotions. What it means to allow and process a feeling (a skill required to sustainably quit pornography). How to start identifying some of your less helpful patterns around feeling your feeling…

Did you know people hire Danny for General Life Coaching? Not just for quitting pornography? Bruce is a high-achieving, successful, powerful guy in many ways, but was feeling disempowered when it came to relationships, creating space for himself, having boundaries, and saying “no” to loved ones. He shares some of his journey to becoming more empowe…

Instead of the typical self-judgment many guys use when interacting with one of their urges for viewing porn, try this more neutral approach. A concept called "sexual relevance." Also, a real client example of someone learning to interact with their urges in a more empowering way. A way that actually allows for change and retraining his brain to no…

Ben, who is single and an entrepreneur, shares with us how he went from: -a porn habit -some hangups about his past -shame -fear -lack of confidence TO Total self-control with Porn Healing his past Releasing shame and fear Confidence in all aspects of his life Making life so good that porn becomes irrelevant Our hope is that Ben's story will inspir…

Danny's pissed today. But it's a Love-Anger. He's glad to be angry about this. Stop slowing your success with this limiting belief. Stop creating unnecessary suffering for yourself. A more efficient way. You deserve better. More ease with success is allowed. Listen to the full episode now! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop…

In this episode, Danny discusses common pitfalls guys run into with the way they are directing their willpower energy when it comes to quitting a porn habit. He covers topics such as: -over-reliance on external locus of control -inefficient uses of willpower energy when focusing on your internal locus of control -willpower is a limited resource -if…

In this episode, Danny interviews past client, Justin Mathews. Justin shares how he went from "stuck" every day to living life porn free and totally in control. It hasn't only helped him leave a porn habit behind, but has transformed him in other areas of his life as well. Even his friends and family have said, "there's something different about yo…

In this episode your host Danny shares a client win in his chain breaker program as well as methods and lessons he's learned and used to move forward from being results driven, to process driven for a more sustainable path to healing and growth. Listen to the full episode now! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at p…

In this episode, host Danny Poelman talks about absolute expectations and letting go of the How Hungry mentality. He talks about the benefits of finding a system that works for you when trying to reach and goal, and staying committed to the process instead of the outcome. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life c…

In this episode, Lindsay Poelman, life coach that focuses on trauma informed coaching methods, dealing with pornography from a woman's perspective, feminism for Christians, and Danny's wife talks about her story and perspective of learning and growing from Danny's porn use. She talks about self advocacy, understanding accountability, and most impor…

In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares wins, successes, and lessons learned from his clients, along with methods and strategies to find the best path of healing for you. He also talks about the need to slow down to move forward and speed up the healing process and what that means and is required from you. Listen to the full episode now. Dan…

You are worth not giving up on. I hope that this story about the impossible inspires you to do the impossible things. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this p…

In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares 3 inspiring real life stories of guys you might be able to relate to who felt stuck and were looking for ways to empower themselves or change their habits. His discusses honesty, vulnerability, how to consciously choose, why it's important to prioritizing your health and well being, and dispel shame ab…

In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his group coaching calls with his clients. He celebrates the wins, shares the difficulties that came up, and proves that companionship in your growth journey can be a powerful tool for change. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a …

In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his coaching calls with his clients. He discusses the importance of committing with freedom, with choice, without fear. He talks about the importance of recognizing why it is you feel bad when you watch porn and how to work around those negative emotions…

In this episode your host Danny Poelman, talks about the lessons he's learned from his new dog about quitting porn and fighting urges. When we are first learning to quit porn, or anything really, like unhealthy food habits, or alcohol, etc. we give in to our urges. It is our lower brain that pushes us to follow through with those urges. We need to …

In this episode, your host Danny Poelman discusses the importance of decision making and why deciding when you will make a commitment is imperative to the success of your journey. The brain uses up a lot of energy just thinking about what decision it needs to make, and by pondering on your commitment to change for too long you may fatigue your brai…

In this episode, your host Danny Poelman talks about the chain breaker process, his new group coaching program, and how that has helped the people who joined. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage w…

In this episode Danny Poelman shares lessons learned from his client Ben, and the successes he has experienced. It's an episode to celebrate wins and to show that coaching really does work. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make th…

In this episode, Danny Poelman talks about the feelings and thoughts we may experience after watching porn during our healing journey. He breaks down myths about progress being linear, gives actionable advice to continue sustainable progress, and how to adjust your thoughts and confidence during this time. Listen to the full episode to hear Danny b…

Habit change is a process that is refined over time. It is literally the consistent work that is put into the process of changing habits that yield results. In this episode, your host Danny Poelman breaks down the Triangle Offense to Habit Change. The 3 pillars of this process are: 1) Love and accept yourself 2) Feel your feelings without reacting …

You are not alone. If you feel stuck in your journey to quit porn, or like nothing you do is working, I want this episode to serve as inspiration that things can change and be better. That there are ways to work on your growth and healing that are sustainable and productive. That you're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. That you are here …

Are you people pleasing? Do you find yourself giving in to your urges too much? Are you afraid of the consequences of your "no's"? It's perfectly normal. When we are on the journey of healing, one of the hardest things to practice is enforcing our boundaries. In this episode Danny Poelman talks about the importance of enforcing boundaries and how t…

In this episode Danny Poelman discusses joy and how that can be an excellent way to create change and success. By thinking of the things we need to do in joyful ways, it'll create a shift in the ways that change happens. Listen to the full episode to learn more Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and …

Are you asking yourself the right questions? In this episode, Danny Poelman goes through the questions he has had to ask himself to facilitate change is his mindset, habits, and life. He offers the questions that can be helpful for thought work and accountability as well as questions to define the 'why' in your journey. Listen to the full episode t…

How often do you check in with yourself? Did you know that checking in with yourself is an important practice to help you change habits, stay happier, feel more fulfilled, and determine what areas of your life you can work on. In this episode Danny Poelman offers some helpful questions to ask yourself when you are checking in. Listen to the full ep…

In this episode Danny Poelman shares some of the lessons and successes his clients have shared. It's an episode to celebrate wins and to show that coaching really does work. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life an…

Decision fatigue affects us all and it can make it very difficult to move forward in our goals. In this episode Danny Poelman talks about decision fatigue, how it affects us, and how we can counteract it to make better, healthier, and more impactful decisions in our day to day. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified …