Working with the Consensual Non-Monogamy Community

Heal Your Roots Podcast

Explore the intricate world of Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) with Courtney Burkhardt, Marriage and Family Therapist, on this enlightening episode of the Heal Your Roots Podcast. Unravel the depths of this unconventional relationship framework, and dive into candid discussions about the complexities of sex therapy, communication, and trust.

Discover the story behind Courtney's journey into the realm of sex therapy, inspired by her early interest and subsequent training experiences. Learn how she examines her own thoughts and feelings through sexual attitude assessments, and understand the profound influence of these insights in her therapeutic interactions.

The episode delves into the core aspects of CNM, illuminating its underpinnings, and presenting a holistic view of the community. Courtney shares her extensive research on the topic from her graduate school days, providing an analytical lens to this contemporary relationship paradigm. She elucidates on the practice of emotionally-focused couples therapy in non-monogamous relationships, and explains the hierarchical and egalitarian forms of polyamory.

The conversation also addresses the realities of transitioning from monogamous to non-monogamous relationships, the nuances of polyamory and swinging, and the distinctive contrasts between open and monogamous relationships. It further examines the intersection of chronic illness, trauma history, and mismatched sex drives with non-monogamous partnerships, underscoring the vital role of trust and clear communication.

Courtney also speaks candidly about the challenges couples may face in non-monogamous relationships, such as setting boundaries, crafting living contracts, and overcoming the stigma and scarcity mindset. The difference between cheating and non-monogamy is also discussed, offering listeners a fresh perspective on this often misunderstood topic.

Towards the end, Courtney shares valuable recommendations, including the book "Ethical Slut", and introduces the Agape app, a tool designed to aid couples in enhancing communication. As the episode wraps up, listeners learn that Courtney is currently accepting new clients for sex therapy, providing an opportunity to benefit from her unique expertise.

In this episode, enhance your understanding of consensual non-monogamy, gain a fresh perspective on relationship dynamics, and discover the healing power of open conversations and clear communication in fostering healthy, fulfilling relationships. Whether you're a therapist, a student, or just curious about the realm of non-monogamous relationships, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and knowledge.

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