Talking to Parts - Unlocking Deep Resistance

The Tutor Podcast

“Working with parts” is the NLP idea of unlocking deep resistance and talking with different parts of the brain. Neil discusses how to introduce “working with parts” into your tutoring business, how to uncover what drives your student’s behaviors and why WWP can help you remove the resistances in a students mind to help them learn more efficiently.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• ‘Working with parts’ is a very useful tool for working with adults and is great at getting past students’ sticking points and separating their egos. Often WWP uncovers driver behaviours and you’ll learn why a student does what they do.
  
• There are a variety of approaches to ‘working with parts’ but firstly, agree with the student that you can talk to the part of their mind which controls a particular behaviour that is getting in the way. This is important because it gets the student out of the way, then you can ask questions to that part of the student’s mind and agree for them to step back in order for the student to grow.
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  Often a tutor may need to speak with and get answers with many parts of a students mind, sometimes one is just enough. It depends on the student and what’s holding them back from learning, sometimes it’s being a perfectionist.
  
• Every master was once a disaster and imperfection is where the growth and fun is. By implementing ‘working with parts’ into your tutoring practice you may find that students feel like a weight has been lifted from their shoulders.
  

BEST MOMENTS

“I test everything. If it works, I add it to my toolkit and start looking for more tools.”
“Where the mind goes, the body follows”
“I can speak with, and get answers from many aspects of the student’s mind. Sometimes I’ll need to speak with 3 or 4 parts, sometimes just one is enough.”
“I’ve been told on numerous occasions that my student “feels like a weight has been lifted off their shoulders” that had been there for years – and even decades.”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Listen to The Tutor Podcast on the Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-tutor-podcast/id1369191372)!
  • Build Your Online Course Week 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/build-your-online-course/id1369191372?i=1000477109724
  • Course Planning Week 2: Who Am I?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/build-your-online-course/id1369191372?i=1000477109724
  • Who are They? (Know Your Punters): https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/who-are-they-know-your-punters/id1369191372?i=1000478984529
• Read the Weird Things Guitarists Do book by Neil Cowmeadow, which is available now on Amazon. Link - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Weird-Things-Guitarists-Do-Misconceptions/dp/1519026579/
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ABOUT THE HOST

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

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