Episode 58 - Catherine Borgman-Arboleda Founder of Collaborative Insights, Conscious Parenting Coach and Recovery Mom

Siblinghood of Recovery

Join me in a fabulous interview with Catherine Borgman-Arboleda, Founder of Collaborative-Insights Coaching, as we cover the vital importance of self-work. We hear that term everywhere, this Episode digs in to what self-work comprises of and how Catherine's insights can lead to a tremendous amount of healing, letting go false expectations and developing a deep connection with our loved ones, no matter where they are at in the walk of Recovery. I hope you gain as much knowledge as I did in this insightful dialogue. Please visit to Catherine's website for resources at https://www.collaborative-insights.com/.
2:15 - Introduction to Catherine's Global work on Policy and the work 'on ourselves'.
3:00 - Catherine's daughter's journey
3:30 - How it's easier to change a law than change our children
4:45 - Her daughter's journey through depression, self-harm, identity-issues
5:15 - The 'Fixing' journey
6:00 - Buddhism and discovering Dr. Shefali Tsabary , the concept of our children being sovereign beings and deconstructing the story that only we are the only teachers in our relationship with our Children
7:15 - Shifting the definition of 'Success' in the defined story of raising children
8:15 - Being aware of our own Agenda and feeling, instead of managing, our fears
10:00 - How we cannot orchestrate someone's healing
11:00 - Grieving the false expectations we've been fed in the Recovery process
12:15 - Father's and Mother's 'Letting Go' and the differences
13:30 - Thanking God that the Child is not buying INTO the concept of Expectations (or The Matrix)
14:15 - Conquering the Fear
15:15 - Trying to Control
15:30 - How fear blocks Connection
16:30 - Changing the External verses the Internal Environment
18:30 - How Culture can prioritize the "Wrong" traits
18:45 - Dr. Gabor Mate's training and Genetic transference of Addiction
18:55 - Dr. Gabor Mate's book, The Myth of Normal
20:50 - Going inward to heal, Wisdom Traditions, allowing the uncomfortable emotions
22:50 - The Efficient Parent, Rescuing, Solving the Problems and how that may not benefit your Child
24:35 - NARM Therapy identifying fear, sadness, anger and which emotions are the 'true' feeling we are experiencing
25:10 - Conscious Coaching and Catherine's resources to finding more self-awareness and shifting into greater Wisdom
28:30 - Our Children's self-blame and how our words are not magic to heal that shame
29: 45 - Can our Face be a Trigger to past strong emotions?
31:20 - The Energy you bring to engagements with our Children: holding the image of possibility
33:15 - The falseness of 'The Vision Board'
34:30 - How our efficiency counters our Children's Agency
36:45 - The Concept of 'Coming Home Contracts' and Catherine's Blog

Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out.
If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.
Walk gently, my friend.