Calm Isn’t the Goal: Your Safety Plan Is

Parenting the Tough Stuff

Parenting—especially adoptive parenting—is beautiful, messy, exhausting, and overwhelming, often all at the same time. You’re doing the best you can to help your child navigate their big emotions, but here’s the truth: you can’t help them regulate if you’re falling apart. So, what does it mean to stay regulated? And do you have a Safety Plan for yourself so you know what to do for you when things start breaking down?

In this episode, I walk you through what regulation really looks like (hint: it’s not about being calm or happy). I also share practical steps for creating your own safety plan—a personal roadmap for recognizing when things are breaking down and how to reset before everything spirals. Because you matter too.

Here’s the best part: creating your safety plan doesn’t have to be complicated. I’ve got a list of thoughtful, practical questions to help you get started. If you want me to send them directly to you, just email me with "Safety Plan" in the subject line, and I’ll send you the questions right away!

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Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. When you have a plan to regulate yourself, you can show up as the steady, safe presence your child needs. Let’s start building your safety plan today!