Ep 31: Finding Love Beyond Racial Barriers: Aisen Li

Rewrite Your Story - Personal Growth and Development

Episode 31: Finding Love Beyond Racial Barriers with The Asian Dating Coach, Aisen Li

In the journey to find love, we often face hurdles like self-doubt and nervousness, especially when approaching someone from a different racial background.

In this episode we sit down with Aisen Li, the Asian dating coach who helps Asian men overcome limiting beliefs and racial barriers in order to find love. He discusses his struggles with identity, overcoming shyness, and finding his true self. Aisen talks about his shift from being a model to a dating coach, addressing the challenges he faced and the misconceptions about dating. He emphasizes the importance of being genuine and embracing oneself in relationships. He covers topics like self-worth, dating strategies, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships.

Aisen explains the difference between his coaching approach and traditional pickup artist techniques. He highlights the significance of honesty, integrity, and becoming the best version of oneself. Aisen shares his coaching process, including breaking down limiting beliefs and building confidence.

Aisen shares insights into dating in the digital age, comparing online apps to in-person interactions. He provides advice on where to meet people and emphasizes the role of self-worth in establishing genuine connections. Aisen also talks about his own relationship and how his career as a dating coach is perceived. Aisen shares personal struggles, including wearing a mask to fit societal expectations, and how he overcame these challenges to find authenticity.

Join us as Aisen dispels common misconceptions about rewriting your life story, offering powerful advice for positive change, sharing the rewarding moments of his coaching journey that extend beyond dating, impacting various aspects of clients' lives.

Episode Highlights:

• Aisen’s background and career as the Asian dating coach.
• Early aspirations of becoming a model influenced by exposure to fashion.
• Cultural differences and challenges faced upon returning to China.
• Aisen’s struggling with introversion and seeking connection.
• Transition into coaching, starting with ads on Craigslist.
• Overcoming shyness and the need to wear a "mask."
• Differentiating coaching approach from pickup artist strategies.
• Aisen’s experiences of being Asian in a relationship.
• Typical client characteristics (age, profession, personality traits).
• Aisen’s customized coaching sessions and follow-ups.
• Dating Strategies: apps vs. in-person interactions.
• Importance of establishing genuine connections.
• Understanding childhood influences on self-worth.
• Aisen’s advice for those rewriting their life story

About Aisen

Aisen Li, a dating coach based in Austin, TX, with a mission to empower Asian men in their journey to love. Often humorously referred to as the "Asian Hitch" by his own mother, Aisen's path to coaching took unexpected turns. Originally, Aisen was deeply involved in running a marketing business and modeling in L.A. before discovering his true passion for helping others navigate the complexities of dating. The transition from Former Model to Small Business Owner to Dating Coach might seem unrelated, but Aisen's story has its roots in his own struggles.

As a shy, introverted kid who moved to America at the age of 9, Aisen faced the challenge of adapting to a new culture that didn't prioritize dating education. Raised in a traditional Asian family, dating was a topic left unexplored until he turned 18, while marriage was expected right after college. Aisen's early attempts at dating were marked by awkwardness, frustration, and a sense of unfairness. Despite physical improvements, he struggled to connect with girls and felt left out as friends entered relationships effortlessly. Determined to change his trajectory, Aisen embarked on a self-directed journey of learning, investing time and money in books, videos, and courses on communication and dating.

Through years of trial and error, facing rejection, embarrassment, and countless failed attempts, Aisen eventually cracked the code. He transformed from the awkward guy in the corner to someone who could confidently approach and attract beautiful women. This transformation opened doors to a life he had always dreamed of—regular dates with intelligent, beautiful women and a newfound confidence. Now, Aisen shares his insights and experiences to help others, particularly Asian men facing similar dating challenges. His coaching focuses on genuine connections, steering clear of pickup artist tactics. Aisen is on a mission to ensure that everyone, regardless of background, deserves happiness and love. For Aisen, the journey is about more than personal success; it's about creating opportunities for others.

Connect with Aisen

• Website | theasiandatingcoach.com
• Facebook | facebook.com/aisen.li
• Instagram | @aisenli
• Tik Tok | @aisenli77
• YouTube | youtube.com/@aisenslifestyletips
• LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/aisen-li

Resources from Aisen

• Mini Course | How to Approaching Anyone Without Being Feeling Awkward or Anxious