Talking With Intention & Listening With Curiosity with Shemiah Derrick, LCPC

Practically Married with Paula Holt

Author and licensed therapist Shemiah Derrick, LCPC, CADC joins the show to discuss how we can improve communication by using specific steps when we’re talking and other steps when we’re listening.
Shemiah shares information about the Gottman Method and how a “gentle start-up” can help when we share feelings with our partner. She also discusses listening with curiosity, pausing a conversation that’s getting heated, and avoiding defensiveness.
We close the conversation with Shemiah explaining how she developed a quiz to identify various communication styles.
Resources referenced:

• Emotions wheel
• Mastermind & Wingmen by Rosalind Wiseman
• You’re Not Listening by Kate Murphy
• Shemiah’s Communication Style quiz
• Shemiah's "The Words Between Us" couples journals (Use promo code PMPOD20 for 20% discount for Practically Married listeners)
• 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects)

To learn more about Shemiah’s work, visit:

• ShemiahDerrick.com
• shemiahderrick on Instagram (Note new IG name)
• Amazon author page

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Edited by Veronica Gruba
Music by Sage Holt-Hall