87. Safety vs. Comfort: Allowing Your Child to Learn Through Failure

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

Are you allowing your child to learn through failure?

There’s a thin line between offering safety and comfort. Just like safety, offering comfort to your kid is a way of protection. It’s a way to protect your child so they don’t have to experience the hardships and difficulties that you had to go through yourself. But is it really in your child’s best interest to keep them from experiencing unsuccessful events?

“By preventing it, you’re also enabling it” - Seth Gottlieb

Our children don’t learn from an unsuccessful event if we rescue them.

Our teens don’t learn from the lesson if you pick up the pieces for them.

But where’s the line? Let’s discuss it with Seth in today’s episode!

In this episode on safety vs. comfort, we discuss:

• What’s the difference between offering safety and comfort?;
• Is something ever really a failure or is it an unsuccessful event that can lead to success through learning?;
• How providing comfort can be enabling;
• Examples of safety versus comfort in daily life;
• And more!

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