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"HOW LONG should I wait to text her?"
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I had written previous content back in 2017 on when/how to text girls. My answer at the time was "whenever/however the fuck you feel like it." In this new, short clip, I elaborate a bit more and incorporate more evolved perspective. As I've discussed repeatedly, the male is his most attractive when he is fully deregulated (i.e., 100% winging his interactions). This applies to texting the same way it does to cold approach, your actual dates, and when you have the girl in your bedroom. In other words, the male should never try to regulate his behavior in any way. The more you wing your interactions, the more attractive you are as a male. When you're texting a girl, don't try to be purposely distancing or cold in order to come off as though you're busy or less needy. Your true state of neediness vs non-neediness will permeate to the surface no matter what. If you try to, e.g., not text a girl for intervals of 3 days because you think that makes you seem less needy, your true state will shine through regardless. It's less about exact frequency/timing and more about the male just truly winging his interactions. The lower the approach volume of the male, the greater the tendency toward texting girls very soon after meeting them. If the male's approach volume is high, he might not end up texting various girls for weeks to months after the fact. However, once again, if your approach volume is low and you try to "fake" non-neediness in any way, your true state will permeate to the surface regardless. If you want to be maximally attractive when texting girls, recognize that insofar as you are engaged in consistent, high-volume approach, the natural behaviors you manifest will be your most attractive. If you are approaching 50+ girls a day, 4+ days a week, then you launching off a random string of four words to a girl at 237am when you're taking a dump is you at your most attractive. You think I'm joking but I'm not. When I am engaged in consistent, high-volume approach, I feel very confident about my texting because I recognize that it truly doesn't matter exactly when I text or what I say, because the mere fact that I'm approaching in high-volume means I am at my most attractive state. You can't fake your level of non-neediness. If you want the most valuable answer as far as how/when to text girls, it genuinely is the case that your texting will be highly variable between girls and that the specifics don't matter. It's not about calculating your timing and crafting the exact words you say; it's about you maintaining high approach volume and then letting your behavior naturally play out as its most attractive. Sometimes you'll start texting girls soon after meeting them. Sometimes you won't. Sometimes you'll be more soup with your convos. Sometimes you won't be. Do not attach rigid rules or self-guidelines to what is supposedly ideal via text. As I said, approach consistently and in high volume and let your natural attractive behaviors play out. "But Michael, you preach about deregulation and maintaining approach volume so that I'm my most attractive, but can you give me at least some sort of idea about when I should text? Like how many days, etc. Just some idea."
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/2021/01/22/how-long-should-i-wait-to-text-her/
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Manage episode 287065704 series 2439125
Main blog - https://mikemehlman.net/
Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/mikemehlman
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mike_mehlman/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikemehlman.net
I had written previous content back in 2017 on when/how to text girls. My answer at the time was "whenever/however the fuck you feel like it." In this new, short clip, I elaborate a bit more and incorporate more evolved perspective. As I've discussed repeatedly, the male is his most attractive when he is fully deregulated (i.e., 100% winging his interactions). This applies to texting the same way it does to cold approach, your actual dates, and when you have the girl in your bedroom. In other words, the male should never try to regulate his behavior in any way. The more you wing your interactions, the more attractive you are as a male. When you're texting a girl, don't try to be purposely distancing or cold in order to come off as though you're busy or less needy. Your true state of neediness vs non-neediness will permeate to the surface no matter what. If you try to, e.g., not text a girl for intervals of 3 days because you think that makes you seem less needy, your true state will shine through regardless. It's less about exact frequency/timing and more about the male just truly winging his interactions. The lower the approach volume of the male, the greater the tendency toward texting girls very soon after meeting them. If the male's approach volume is high, he might not end up texting various girls for weeks to months after the fact. However, once again, if your approach volume is low and you try to "fake" non-neediness in any way, your true state will permeate to the surface regardless. If you want to be maximally attractive when texting girls, recognize that insofar as you are engaged in consistent, high-volume approach, the natural behaviors you manifest will be your most attractive. If you are approaching 50+ girls a day, 4+ days a week, then you launching off a random string of four words to a girl at 237am when you're taking a dump is you at your most attractive. You think I'm joking but I'm not. When I am engaged in consistent, high-volume approach, I feel very confident about my texting because I recognize that it truly doesn't matter exactly when I text or what I say, because the mere fact that I'm approaching in high-volume means I am at my most attractive state. You can't fake your level of non-neediness. If you want the most valuable answer as far as how/when to text girls, it genuinely is the case that your texting will be highly variable between girls and that the specifics don't matter. It's not about calculating your timing and crafting the exact words you say; it's about you maintaining high approach volume and then letting your behavior naturally play out as its most attractive. Sometimes you'll start texting girls soon after meeting them. Sometimes you won't. Sometimes you'll be more soup with your convos. Sometimes you won't be. Do not attach rigid rules or self-guidelines to what is supposedly ideal via text. As I said, approach consistently and in high volume and let your natural attractive behaviors play out. "But Michael, you preach about deregulation and maintaining approach volume so that I'm my most attractive, but can you give me at least some sort of idea about when I should text? Like how many days, etc. Just some idea."
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/2021/01/22/how-long-should-i-wait-to-text-her/
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