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"Are my REJECTION PERCENTAGES too high? Do YOU get rejected a lot?"
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In this short clip I talk about the extent to which rejection is normal. I've made lots of content discussing how rejection will compose the overwhelming majority of your interactions regardless, but most guys take on that input/advice only halfway. In other words, guys might hear me talk about the normality of rejection and say, "Ok, well I guess getting rejected a lot is normal." But they don't *actually* internalize my statement. They don't realize that when I say rejection will compose the majority of your interactions, it *literally will compose the majority of your interactions.* So are you not getting the outcomes you're looking for? You feel like you're getting rejected too much? Right. Well that's normal. No it's not excessive. That's *normal.* That's how it's supposed to be. The purpose of this short clip is to provide reinforcement of that point; it is to communicate to you that you need to embrace rejection as a core pillar of the dating process. You will incur an inordinately greater number of rejections than you will sexual outcomes, at all time points. This will never change. So any male who truly does achieve high numbers of sexual outcomes *must* incur a significantly greater number of rejections. There's no way around that. It doesn't matter who you are, what you say, or what you do. Needy PUAs will preach sexual outcomes sans the rejection - i.e., they won't discuss rejection as a normal facet of approach and dating. This is linked to insecurity and believing that rejection is an outright repudiation of the male. Since high numbers of sexual outcomes require the male to absorb an inordinately greater number of rejections as a prerequisite, and the latter are what generate non-neediness and confidence in the male, if the male truly is truly having lots of sexual outcomes, he will be able to openly communicate about his rejections, since those are what generated his confidence to begin with. Needy PUAs might be able to front charismatically, however this should not be misconstrued as confidence. Because true confidence will enable the male to openly discuss his rejections. And, once again, if he is actually achieving many sexual outcomes, then he must be incurring many more rejections as part of the process. So any discussion where the male ardently claims he doesn't get rejected a lot, and he's telling the truth, this therefore means he doesn't hook up a lot and merely is capable of fronting. The inculcation and learning point is that if you want to hook up a lot, you need to get rejected a lot. The number-one trait in the male that will determine how successful he is achieving sexual outcomes is his ability to incur repeated rejection and continue approaching anyway. And he must never complain about his rejections and whine about his "low" percentages. Male whining over rejection reflects a non-understanding about the normality of the extent to which it is normal. Because if the male understands that rejection composes the overwhelming majority of outcomes, he won't voice his concerns about why his rejection numbers are supposedly so high, or wonder about "what he's doing wrong."
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/2021/02/07/are-my-rejection-percentages-too-high
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Manage episode 287065697 series 2439125
Main blog - https://mikemehlman.net/
Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/mikemehlman
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mike_mehlman/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikemehlman.net
In this short clip I talk about the extent to which rejection is normal. I've made lots of content discussing how rejection will compose the overwhelming majority of your interactions regardless, but most guys take on that input/advice only halfway. In other words, guys might hear me talk about the normality of rejection and say, "Ok, well I guess getting rejected a lot is normal." But they don't *actually* internalize my statement. They don't realize that when I say rejection will compose the majority of your interactions, it *literally will compose the majority of your interactions.* So are you not getting the outcomes you're looking for? You feel like you're getting rejected too much? Right. Well that's normal. No it's not excessive. That's *normal.* That's how it's supposed to be. The purpose of this short clip is to provide reinforcement of that point; it is to communicate to you that you need to embrace rejection as a core pillar of the dating process. You will incur an inordinately greater number of rejections than you will sexual outcomes, at all time points. This will never change. So any male who truly does achieve high numbers of sexual outcomes *must* incur a significantly greater number of rejections. There's no way around that. It doesn't matter who you are, what you say, or what you do. Needy PUAs will preach sexual outcomes sans the rejection - i.e., they won't discuss rejection as a normal facet of approach and dating. This is linked to insecurity and believing that rejection is an outright repudiation of the male. Since high numbers of sexual outcomes require the male to absorb an inordinately greater number of rejections as a prerequisite, and the latter are what generate non-neediness and confidence in the male, if the male truly is truly having lots of sexual outcomes, he will be able to openly communicate about his rejections, since those are what generated his confidence to begin with. Needy PUAs might be able to front charismatically, however this should not be misconstrued as confidence. Because true confidence will enable the male to openly discuss his rejections. And, once again, if he is actually achieving many sexual outcomes, then he must be incurring many more rejections as part of the process. So any discussion where the male ardently claims he doesn't get rejected a lot, and he's telling the truth, this therefore means he doesn't hook up a lot and merely is capable of fronting. The inculcation and learning point is that if you want to hook up a lot, you need to get rejected a lot. The number-one trait in the male that will determine how successful he is achieving sexual outcomes is his ability to incur repeated rejection and continue approaching anyway. And he must never complain about his rejections and whine about his "low" percentages. Male whining over rejection reflects a non-understanding about the normality of the extent to which it is normal. Because if the male understands that rejection composes the overwhelming majority of outcomes, he won't voice his concerns about why his rejection numbers are supposedly so high, or wonder about "what he's doing wrong."
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/2021/02/07/are-my-rejection-percentages-too-high
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