The Paradox of Parenting: Practical Tips with Behavior Analyst Mandy Grass

It’s Both — Personal Growth For Real Life Transitions

If “stop doing that” isn’t changing behavior, try this: teach tiny replacement skills for real emotional regulation. I

n this episode, Nikki P sits down with board-certified behavior analyst Mandy Grass (The Family Behaviorist) to make the messy middle of parenting feel doable. You’ll learn how to spot the function of a behavior, what to say in the heat of a meltdown, and simple replacement behaviors kids can actually use—without abandoning connection or your boundaries.

We cover:

- The “function first” lens: attention, access, escape

- Exactly what to say: “I’ll be happy to help when…” (firm + caring)

- Replacement > reprimand: asking for help, tolerating delays, taking turns

- Siblings & competition for attention (and how to defuse it)

- When to coach later vs. teach in the moment

- Building resilience and self-compassion (for you, too)

If you’re juggling big feelings, tiny humans, and zero bandwidth, this conversation offers grounded scripts, realistic expectations, and small changes that lead to calmer days.

Resources & Links:
- Get connected with Mandy Grass, The Family Behaviorist

- Follow Mandy on Instagram

- Subscribe, rate, & review It's Both on Apple Podcasts

- Join the Courageous Living Group Transformation

- It's Both on Instagram & Youtube