The Ultimate Guide to Coming Out - A Philosopher's Perspective

Intrinsically Ordered

This is the ultimate guide to coming out—philosophically, practically, and personally. Whether you’re just starting to question your identity, preparing for your first conversation, or figuring out how to rebuild your life after coming out, this video is for you.
As someone who almost became a Catholic priest and now helps coach others through the coming out process, I’ve condensed everything I know—from identity labels to safety planning, to navigating family, faith, and fear—into this one video. You’ll find conversation scripts, tips, community, and real-life encouragement.
Your life doesn’t start when you have all the answers. It starts the moment you get to breathe.
00:00 Intro
02:15 Understanding the Coming Out Process
11:58 The Importance of Labels and Identity
14:18 Planning and Safety Considerations
16:49 Building a Coming Out Plan
20:21 Navigating Conversations and Reactions
26:11 The Reality of Life After Coming Out
28:50 Cade's Personal Coming Out Letter
32:46 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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