Why Do We Defend Our Dysfunction?


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Dysfunctional behavior…we all deal with it, to one degree or another.

Is that behavior healthy? Absolutely not! So, why do we find ourselves dealing with it from time to time?

In this episode of Inner Archeology, Sarah and Emily open up about their dysfunctional behavior, the mechanisms we put in place to protect ourselves from it, and what we can do to help ourselves and others dealing with it.

Key Points In Episode:

  • You can have a voice and still be messy – both can happen at the same time, and that’s OK.
  • Sarah believes that there’s a general shift happening, and that’s a good thing! Earlier, it felt as if one needed to be an expert on something before saying anything, but now we’re moving into a more realistic place where we’re acknowledging our limitations of knowledge and experience but focusing on finding people that your message resonates with.
  • There isn’t just value at the end. The real value is in the journey. #QuoteOfTheDay
  • Have you ever felt as if certain things aren’t going great and you know that, but you subconsciously defend and justify them to yourself?
  • For Emily, that happens when you’re making changes: You know something is holding you back, but don’t know how to shift yet. So, you gravitate toward what’s familiar and comfortable instead of going outside of your comfort zone. Sound familiar?
  • Sarah found herself in a situation when she shifted from scarcity to abundance. She wanted to live more abundantly and have an impact on the world but could barely take care of herself.
  • Don’t be afraid to open up to others! A conversation with a friend brought up the fact that Sarah’s desires for the future were in contradiction with the belief system she was following and defending.
  • You feel frustrated because your beliefs aren’t aligned with your values or with the life you’d like to create – right?
  • Are you planning to talk with a friend who’s dealing with dysfunctional behavior and who feels kind of stuck? Sarah suggests asking for permission before showing them the blind spot that’s holding them back.
  • We often create stories that we kind of adhere our identity to in some ways, and then we defend them even though they aren’t really serving us.
  • Sarah feels as if, in today’s world, there’s an overemphasis on self-reliance and independence. Do you agree?
  • Remember: When talking to a friend who’s “stuck,” it isn’t about getting them to move through it or being frustrated that they aren’t. It’s just about having candid conversations.
  • And yes, there’s a connection between dysfunctional behavior, health, and happiness…

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Inner Archeology Email

Sarah Turner on Instagram

Emily Pennystone on Instagram

@Inner.Archeology on Instagram


InnerArcheology.tv (video version)


Inner Archeology on YouTube

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