Why You'd Rather Lose Than Be Treated Unfairly

Influential Introvert: Communication Coaching for Professionals with Performance Anxiety

What do abandoned mansions in Bucharest have to do with dirty dishes and emotional resentment?

In this episode, I explore how our desire for fairness can lead us to self-sabotage — and how Stoic justice asks us to think beyond pride, punishment, and being right.

We’ll walk through a real-world example of decades-long property disputes, connect it to the Ultimatum Game in behavioral economics, and look at how these same dynamics show up in our everyday relationships — from family drama to who does the dishes.

This is an invitation to reflect on what you're holding onto, and whether it’s time to build something new — even without the apology or closure you thought you needed.

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Hi! I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, an American in England and fellow citizen of the world. A few things I love: Stoicism, great vegetarian tacos, and helping my coaching clients thrive in all areas of their lives.

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1. Why You'd Rather Lose Than Be Treated Unfairly (00:00:00)

2. The Ultimatum Game (00:02:25)

3. Are we losing by holding out for the win? (00:05:37)

4. Stoic justice (00:07:10)

5. What do you need to let go of? (00:08:43)