6: Breaking the Cycle, How to Step Back Without Abandoning Your Child

Do Less Parenting

Breaking the Cycle, How to Step Back Without Abandoning Your Child

Robyn shares how parents can reduce accommodations while still staying connected and supportive.

In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman explores what it looks like to step back from over-accommodating without leaving your child feeling alone. She explains how anxiety often leads parents to jump in quickly, fix problems, or smooth the path, but these well-meaning efforts can keep kids from developing resilience.

Robyn walks through practical ways to reduce accommodations while maintaining warmth and connection. She highlights the importance of small, intentional shifts—pausing before rescuing, reflecting feelings instead of removing challenges, and offering encouragement as children face discomfort. With relatable examples from daily life, she shows how to balance stepping back with staying present.

By the end of this episode, you will feel more equipped to support your child’s independence without fear that you are abandoning them. You will see how doing less creates space for growth, while your consistent presence builds trust and safety.

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