Before You Coach Performance, Understand Perspective: Part 2

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What if the missing ingredient in your team’s performance wasn’t accountability — but empathy?

In this episode of the DeadThree Coaching Show, George breaks down a leadership truth that many overlook: you can’t demand discipline from people who don’t first feel understood. Leaders who rush to enforce standards without connection end up managing compliance, not commitment.

Through personal reflections, sports analogies, and lessons from the SDC Playbook (Standards, Discipline, Consistency), George explores how empathy and accountability are not opposites — they’re partners. Empathy earns trust; trust fuels discipline; and discipline drives results.

This episode will challenge how you see your role as a leader — not as an enforcer, but as an example. Because if your people don’t believe you care, they’ll never care how much you know.

Inside This Episode

• Why discipline without empathy creates resistance, not results.
• How understanding your team’s perspective strengthens accountability.
• The balance between standards and support — how elite leaders master both.
• Why empathy is the first step toward culture, trust, and long-term performance.
• How to model calm, care, and clarity — even when the pressure is on.

Key Takeaways

“You can’t demand discipline from people who don’t believe you care.”

“Empathy isn’t weakness — it’s what gives discipline its power.”

“When your team feels seen, they’ll push themselves harder than you ever could.”

“Connection builds commitment. Commitment fuels consistency. Consistency wins.”

Three Actions to Take This Week

1. Listen before leading: Spend one meeting this week asking your team what challenges or frustrations they’re facing — and do nothing but listen.
2. Coach the person, not the performance: Before you correct behavior, ask yourself, “Do I understand what’s driving it?”
3. Pair every standard with a story: When you enforce a standard, share the why behind it — people follow stories, not rules.

Because leadership isn’t about control. It’s about connection.
And when empathy meets discipline, teams stop working for you — and start working with you.

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