Ep. 25: From Overwhelmed To Confident: The Power of Inspired Action

Career Design Podcast

Episode 25

Lindsay 00:00

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Lindsay 00:43

Welcome to the career design podcast This episode is from overwhelmed to competent the power of inspired action. And my guest today is Ray Warner. Now Ray, I absolutely love him. And after getting to listen to one of his most recent workshops, on inspired action, I asked him to come on the career design podcast to talk about a few things about truthfully how to stand in your power. And he is a self-love, self-worth joy, and connection coach for women. So Ray, thank you so much for being here today.

Ray 01:12

Well, thank you for having me, Lindsay, you know, I'm so glad that you invited me I adore everything that you do, and that you invited me, I feel so honored.

Lindsay 01:21

Well, I absolutely loved your workshop and just watching, you know, hundreds of people being so amped up about taking inspired action because you really are in control of your destiny. It happens by taking action now and stop waiting for the bus to show up for you. You got to find the bus stop first off in order to get on it.

Ray 01:38

Well, yeah. And also taking actions where you build that confidence that you can create more things. Instead of sitting in analysis, paralysis, and being stuck in your head and over planning. If all you do is a plan, then all you're going to create is plans.

Lindsay 01:53

Oh, I love that. Okay, so we said we were going to talk about a couple of things today. But the first one was about to overwhelm, is a choice. So I might tell you a little bit about overwhelming for me because when you are at the point of running a business or managing your life, we are all very busy, we have so many different things being pulled in a direction, and it's really easy to go, I'm overwhelmed. Talk to me about that being a choice. How do you change that?

Ray 02:17

Well, exactly. Like everything in life, everything, overwhelm is a choice. So if you choose to say, I'm overwhelmed, I have so many things to do, then your reality is what you say it is, instead of saying you're overwhelmed, you can choose to say, I have an abundance of things coming to me, I am inspired by all of the things that I am doing. It's how you look at it's your interpretation. Everything your mindset is built on your interpretations. Events are neutral. It's your interpretation, it gives it meaning. So if you say I'm overwhelmed, then that's what your reality is. That's how you'll feel. And you'll feel like at my workshop, somebody said it was like the vortex of suck, you're being sucked down, or one of my other participants said it was like having a ton of bricks, or room like having a ton of bricks on you. If you choose that feeling, then that's how you're going to feel. If you choose, I get to do all these things, I'm blessed to do all of these things, I choose to do all of these things, then that's how you'll feel you'll feel energized and excited by the things that you're choosing to do.

Lindsay 03:31

I love that. So we get to choose what we put our energy on. And we can choose how to frame it, whether or not it's an abundance of choices or a suck on our time.

Ray 03:40

Correct. And the other side of this is, and well I know we'll talk about this a little bit more. But if the things you're choosing to do are inspired or driven by what your vision is, then automatically they feel lighter. And so things are Oh, I have to do the laundry, I have to clean the car or whatever. If you're choosing things based on your vision, then that automatically brings your energy up, because you're choosing something that you want to do.

Lindsay 04:10

I love that. So we've talked about driving through joy and love is just like what you coach on. So let's talk about building a vision because I think a lot of people like to talk that they're living on default, right life is they wake up they don't have any plans for the day. So having any intention for their, for their what they want to get out of life. They just kind of sit back and let it happen to them. Talk to me about getting into a vision-driven life.

Ray 04:34

Well yeah, exactly. Like you said, people, a lot of people in today's world, they're zombies are sleepwalking through life. I was like that before I discovered emotional intelligence. It's no purpose, no driven thought, No, no intention. So if you realize and in my workshop, this is what what I talked about was we did an exercise on finding out what you want. And then we went further from that is why you want it. And as far as why you want it. Don't just ask, oh, also I want to feel happy. And ask once. Why do you want to feel happy? Because I want to feel happy. We went even deeper. Ask yourself five times. Why do you want it?

Lindsay 05:20

The Five why's

Ray 05:22

Exactly? Yes. So I was like, why you want this? I want to feel happy. Why is it important that you feel happy? And then answer that and keep going until you go deep? Because that's how you connect to really what your vision is, what your purpose is, what you what is your why it's like Simon Sinek says, start with why.

Lindsay 05:41

Yes, oh my gosh. And that's He is my favorite. So I love that. Okay, so you need to figure out your why because people always buy your WHY NOT THE what they buy, the reason why you do it, the real people who want to follow you, and they really want to be inspired by your life. They want to know why you're doing things and you need a deeper reason. Otherwise, it's all if you're feeling like you don't have a deeper sense of purpose. You haven't connected to your why.

Ray 06:04

Yeah, exactly. It's like, I can say I want to live in Hawaii. But why do I want to live in Hawaii? What so what about Hawaii is important to me, because you can have a goal. But if you don't have a why or a reason to go after it, when it gets hard, you're going to give up. And that's what your vision is all about. It's, it's why it's your why's, what drives you forward, leaders live a vision-driven life, everything they do comes from their vision, their vision is creating their vision in the world. For me, my vision is to live a life of freedom, joy, love, connection, and trust. And I have a vision for the world to I want to create a world where people get to live and togetherness, love, and connection. Everything I do serves that vision.

Lindsay 06:54

Ah, I love that if you work backward from your why you can find out what's like the next thing about creating magic from messy, imperfect inspired action. And I love that you talked about inspired action and not what we have to do. Now tell me about this more

Ray 07:11

The inspiration part that comes from your why your vision, you're the things you're choosing to do is driven by your vision. But also, it gets back to the overwhelming thought about just doing the thing without being stuck in your head without analysis paralysis, it's just going for it without worrying about being a perfect being perfect. going for it and being messy. Messy is like, you know, I'm gonna go for it. And if I mess it up, okay, something magical maybe come from that some magical things have come from mistakes. Like I don't you know, I'm sure you've heard the story about the discovery of penicillin that literally came from a mass, I just left his stuff in the sink didn't clean up after himself. Mold grew on it. And that's penicillin. That's how we found it, literally from the mass.

Lindsay 08:00

I love that. You know, I'm like, my example is posted notes. And I know they're like, I need to create a really super adhesive. Oh, I created one that's super not, and how many of us have posted notes right at the ready. Like, I have to recognize that. So I also want to talk a little bit about Creating Magic around a friend-inspired action. So for me when I think about when you talk about this is that you have intuition around what you should do next. But you have to first off, feel safe, secure, you have to feel like you're following love, you have to feel like you're following you're why. And then you really need to turn into yourself and say, What would help make this vision come true? What is the very first step and to sit on it quietly? Not to spend time just chasing squirrels. But to think about what's that first step, and it doesn't have to be perfect.
Ray Warner 08:47
Yeah, that's exactly you. You think, okay, what's the first step? What am I inspired to do? But then don't set out too long? Because that's that's the action part that's on it. Yeah, don't sit on it. Don't Oh, I gotta I'm playing this. I gotta, you know, go through all this list of things I had to do. And then it has to be perfect before actually take that step. Don't do that. Just messy. Go for it and make it happen. Because when you are in action, and you create things from being in intentional, messy action, you'll see look at this amazing thing that I just created. And that's where your confidence comes from. You're like, I'm awesome. I just created this thing without over-planning it. Yeah. Just imagine. And we have been so conditioned to show up exactly perfect, but showing up exactly as you are is what the word world really needs, in my opinion,

Ray 09:43

The authenticity that's, you know, people with the autotune where they have their faces so smoothed out. I don't know if you've seen the meme with Yoda with auto to facetoon. No, that's not authentic. you know, I personally connect with people who are authentic, who show their real Story The real face like, I don't need all this perfection. Perfection is the need to be perfect for me when I was always worried about being perfect is it was driven by feeling not good enough. Yeah, always good enough the way you are just by who you be who you are. That's good enough. You don't need to be perfect for anything

Lindsay 10:23

Our worthy of creating the life that we truly desire. There's nothing you need to do except for taking inspired action to move forward.

Ray 10:32

Yes, yes, very much. So. You are perfect just the way you are.

Lindsay 10:36

Yes and perfectly imperfect. Which is the beauty of it. I love it. Well, Ray, this has been an amazing enlightening conversation and I hope it really helps illuminate some people here. If people want to get in touch with you. How can they find you?

Ray 10:51

I am on Facebook. My name is Ray Warner. You can reach out to me dm there. You can also email me warner.ray at gmail.com. and yeah, reach out. I welcome a conversation. I'd love to connect with you. I love connection. I love meeting new people. please reach out.

Lindsay 11:09

Amazing. Thank you so much for your time today. Ray. Thank you for having me. I love it.