If you want to increase your odds of finding the "right" partner, understanding mate selection is mission critical. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Livi…

The prevailing narrative is that relationships are hard work. However, they don't have to be so difficult. Listen to learn more. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and …

Repression is a great tool for temporary management, like a tourniquet on a wound that’s bleeding, but repression as a lifestyle is a curse. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Li…

The three rules for "fair fighting" include no abuse, by mutual consent, and any one subject. Conflict is, after all, an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Listen to learn more! For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychol…

There is nothing wrong with being needy; we all have needs and will continue to have them for the rest of our lives. The problem occurs when our neediness becomes pathological and starts to control our lives. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psy…

A negative body image directed towards yourself and/or your partner can be detrimental to building and sustaining a safe, intimate, and loving relationship. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuali…

Loving someone is not all we need to build and maintain a successful relationship. We also need to slow down and take our time to really get to know the other person. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two b…

Today’s episode was inspired by the book The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. The book was written by David Deida and published in 1997. We read through various passages of the book and discuss how they relate to managing love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT,…

Understanding personality disorders (paranoid, narcissistic, antisocial, etc.) can give you valuable insights into yourself and your partner and help you manage love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the a…

Practical dating advice for men, which women, too, can benefit from hearing. You don’t need to read hundreds of books or watch hours of videos on this topic. It’s all quite simple. Tune in to learn more. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psy…

In today's episode, we review the article “Going ‘Boy Sober’ Is About More Than Celibacy" in relation to managing love intelligently. The article was written by Anne Branigin and published in The Washington Post. The subhead reads, "Young people are reexamining their relationships with sex and dating amid a toxic online dating culture and an increa…

Sex is all around us (internet, advertising, media); however, as a society, we don't really know how to talk about it. Tune in to today's episode to learn how becoming comfortable with this important topic can result in a healthier society. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic wor…

Today's episode was inspired by The New York Times Guest Essay by Hillary Kelly titled “Welcome to Stucktopia.” The essay opens by discussing some popular TV shows, such as Fallout, Severance, and Silo, and how these shows capture the way life feels right now, which is that we are stuck. We read through the essay and apply this idea of being "stuck…

It's a fundamental thinking error to think that verbal abuse in relationships is normal. We all deserve to be treated with respect, courtesy, and dignity. Listen to today's episode to learn more! For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology …

Learn how setting, defending, and acting on your boundaries empowers your life. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host …

When it comes to our fantasy about what marriage can be like, our fantasy is that we wouldn't have to keep things from our spouse at all. The question is “How can I make the relationship safe enough for my mate to be as honest as humanly possible.” For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in fore…

Understanding the Sacred Bubble allows you and your partner to form a sacred connection or bubble, where all of life's problems are outside of the bubble. This allows couples to resolve any conflicts in a safe, effective, and abuse-free manner, so they can get back to producing the only thing worth producing in a relationship: happiness. For over 3…

We don't need a girlfriend or boyfriend; we need the RIGHT girlfriend or boyfriend. If someone rejects us, they are not the RIGHT girlfriend or boyfriend. None of us crave to be with someone who doesn't love us. Listen to learn more! For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He i…

Some people have sexuality in one compartment of their brain and spirituality in another compartment. Therefore, the two compartments never talk to each other. Integrating spirituality and sexuality, gets these two compartments talking to each other. Listen to today's episode to learn more. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage an…

Today's episode discusses gender roles in relationships. It was inspired by the NBC News article "Some dating coaches online are pushing women to seek more traditional gender roles" by Angela Yang. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psycholog…

Steve responds to a message from a person calling themselves "Alone." Note: the message was in response to Steve's Psychology Today article "How to Keep an Incel from Becoming a Sex Offender." For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Tod…

The belief that "love conquers all" is an unfortunate and harmful fallacy. We cannot love our partners into wellness; we cannot love our partners into sobriety; we cannot love our partners into no longer being emotionally, physically, or spiritually abusive. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a special…

Your magic sex number is the ideal number of sexual encounters you require on a weekly basis to feel your best. Listen to learn more and how knowing your magic sex number can help you manage love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer…

Join us for an open discussion on whether men and women can be friends. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host of the t…

If you want real love, let your partner know who you really are and what you really think. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creato…

If you dislike online dating as much as Steve and are interested in shifting your approach to meeting potential partners, this episode is for you. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: W…

The subject of "sexual intimacy" is so much bigger than just "doing it” with our partners. True sexual intimacy allows couples to safely share and express the full spectrum of their sexuality with one another. Listen to learn more. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is …

The main idea behind "120 Days of Narcissistic Love" is that when you fall in love with a new lover, the things that you love about this person are the things you love about yourself. Tune in to learn more and how becoming aware of this phenomenon can help you manage love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Fa…

Learning how to resolve the conflicts that are keeping us apart is one of the best ways to develop intimacy. Conflict, after all, is an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. In today's episode, you will learn how to engage in conflict in an intelligent, healthy, and abuse-free manner. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has …

If we're committed to “Managing Love Intelligently,” we have to be open to the possibility that (1) we might make mistakes and (2) intelligent people learn from their mistakes. One of the biggest mistakes we can make is in the area of mate selection, the most disastrous of which is marrying the wrong person. Thankfully, there's a remedy for marital…

Porn is not just one thing. For some, porn is a wonderful part of their bedroom activities; for others, porn brings up all types of body issues; and for others, it's distasteful and uncomfortable. Join us as we discuss porn from a variety of different angles and examine if it's an intelligent way to manage your sexuality. For over 30 years, Steven …

In 2023, the U.S. Surgeon General, Dr. Vivek Murthy, said America is suffering from an epidemic of loneliness, and that men are the number one demographic most affected by that loneliness. Steve explains why he agrees with the Surgeon General's assessment and offers some advice to remedy the situation. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a…

Ordinary human sexual needs are the one kind of human need our species hasn't learned how to discuss. Tune in to learn how acknowledging and understanding these needs can result in healthier choices for us all. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer…

Steve explains why the five love languages are a vague and bygone notion. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host of the…

Equality, for couples, means the end of loneliness. We have a partner of equal value in the relationship. And we each have a vital part to play and an opinion worth listening to. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the aut…

The Intentional Debriefing is an individual journey, where you look in the mirror, examine what went wrong in your last relationship, and learn everything you need to learn in order to move on and avoid making the same mistakes in the future. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic w…

Steve and Jason have an unbiased conversation about monogamy and polyamory. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host of t…

Steve explains why he believes people should go on at least 30 dates prior to settling down. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the crea…

Steve debunks some of the myths surrounding sex offenders and explains what they can teach us about managing our sexuality intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All …

Steve talks marriage and examines the benefits of slowing down, becoming more intentional, and learning more about your partner prior to tying the knot. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexual…

The Abuse-Free Life is a powerful tool that can positively transform your relationships and your life. Listen to learn more and start living an Abuse-Free Life today! For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two b…

Steve explains what he means by the term "intimacy" and why it's the secret to lasting love. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the crea…

Steve shares his thoughts on sexual education programming in the United States and explains what a real sex ed class should look like. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Lik…

Steve explains how sexual play and humor between partners can open up infinite possibilities in the bedroom. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living…

In this episode Steve addresses sex addiction and explains what's really going on in the mind of a "sex addict." For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Li…

When it comes to sex, most people can "do it" but cannot talk about it. Steve explains the reasons behind this phenomenon and why talking about sex matters, especially in regards to managing our sexuality intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributi…

Steve explains his thoughts on toxic masculinity and how he's more in favor of viewing it as an individual problem rather than a societal problem. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: W…

In this episode Steve explains what The Intentional Interview looks like, how to put it into practice, the guiding principles, and so on. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All …

The Intentional Interview is a Steven Ing classic. It allows you the opportunity to ask specific questions that will help you determine if a relationship is worth pursuing or not. These questions should be based off what you learned from your past relationship so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes as last time. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, M…

In this episode, Steven discusses the Madonna-Whore Complex (MWC) and his experiences with it. Wikipedia defines MWC as the inability to maintain sexual arousal within a committed, loving relationship. Sigmund Freud first identified this complex, under the rubric of "psychic impotence." It is a psychological complex said to develop in men who see w…