Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustra…

In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn'…

In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopti…

This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'fo…

Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despi…

In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses t…

Rebuilding Trust and Dating after Divorce In this episode, host Becky answers a question about recovery and dating after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of thorough grieving and the role of forgiveness in healing. She asserts the necessity of building self-trust and confidence, and the ability to manage negative emotions to be ready to date …

Overcoming Codependency and People Pleasing: Five Pillars of Resentment-Free Relationships In this Valentine's Day-themed podcast episode, Becky addresses resentments that often affect relationships due to codependency and people-pleasing behaviors. Becky offers a 12-week coaching package introducing five pillars for healthier relationships, free f…

Tapping Away Stress: Becky and Rachel Hall discuss the concept of 'tapping', a technique she has been practicing for over ten years to manage pain, depression, and anxiety. Trained through Brooke Snow's Creation Coach certification, Rachel shares her journey dealing with depression and celiac disease, and how tapping has helped her cope with these …

Learn five strategies for dealing with a grumpy family member: not taking the bad mood personally, resisting the urge to 'fix' the other person's emotion, reflecting on their feelings by verbalizing empathy, asking open-ended questions to understand their situation, and setting healthy boundaries. The message throughout is helping listeners to unde…

Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feeling…

Becky talks about self-abandonment and its impact on relationships, particularly close family relationships. You will learn to identify five self-abandonment signs: fear of rejection, misunderstanding self-worth, avoiding negative emotions, reliance on external validation, and lack of boundaries. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 00:39 The I…

Resentment Free Relationships: How to Improve Your Close Family Connections in 2024 In the January 2024 episode of the Resentment Free Relationships podcast, the host outlines the purpose, which is to assist listeners in improving their relationships, particularly close family ones. She aims to teach listeners how to stop seeking approval and feeli…

Year-End Review and Reflections: Wisdom and Wins of 2023 Becky reflects on the triumphs and lessons of 2023. She recounts personal experiences ranging from getting her bachelor's degree and becoming a certified life coach, to family projects and real estate ventures. She discusses embracing the challenges and changes that come with shifting stages …

Click on the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 and sign up for a free session where we will chat. about where you feel stuck, and where that negative emotion, which can turn into resentment, is bubbling up for you. So if you're feeling a lot of that resentment or feeling stuck click on the link, find me on Instagram, send me a DM, and let…

In this episode, we discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves and how self-deception can manifest in various aspects of our lives. Through thought-provoking questions, we aim to bring awareness to these hidden patterns without the weight of self-judgment. Key Questions Explored: What am I pretending not to know, or what am I pretending …

Welcome to "Resentment-Free Relationships" with Becky Smith! In this episode, we explore the concept of "Secret Contracts" inspired by Kim and Penn Holderness. These silent agreements in relationships, formed through routine, can be both efficient and potential sources of dysfunction. We discuss common triggers like unequal household chores, drawin…

Becky joins Jordana Theissen as a featured guest on the "LDS and Loving It" podcast. Getting into some real talk about kicking those people-pleasing habits to the curb and building relationships without the baggage of resentment. Becky shares her story, shining a light on how high-functioning codependency can mess with your vibe and why self-awaren…

Special guest Denita Bremer, LCS certified trauma coach , shares her story and insights into trauma healing. Learn how to identify and understand trauma, explore the role of the nervous system, and discover practical tools to navigate fear and build safety in relationships. Instagram @Denitabremerhttps://denitabremer.com/--- Send in a voice message…

Hey there! 🎙️ Join us for a cozy chat with the fabulous Sabrina de Jong as we unpack the mysteries of household life. Ever found yourself drowning in resentment? Fear not! We're turning that negativity into pure empowerment, drawing lessons from the amazing "Both Things Are True." Sabrina spills the beans on navigating the wild world of housework, …

In this podcast episode, we continued our conversation with Kristen Rutter about the Faith Matters Conference. Here are the main points: Jared Halverson talked about understanding opposites and encouraging open questioning without judgment. Patrick Mason discussed the importance of creating a safe space for open discussions and the commitment to st…

In this episode of the "Resentment-Free Relationships" podcast, hosted by Becky Smith, Kristen Rutter is the featured guest. The episode primarily revolves around their shared experience attending the Faith Matters Conference and its unique approach to faith and spirituality. Kristen discusses key takeaways from notable speakers at the conference, …

Spiritually Minded Podcast - Show Notes 1. Shifting Perspectives: Explore the importance of seeing life from God's perspective. Discuss the difference between worry and genuine love. Embrace the concept of family as a learning laboratory. 2. Striving for Good, Not Perfection: Focus on aiming for goodness rather than perfection in relationships. Und…

Anger phobia is an extreme fear of anger in oneself and others. It can lead to avoidance of conflict, which can damage relationships and prevent personal growth. Key Points Anger is a normal human emotion, but it can be harmful if it is not expressed in a healthy way. There are two main components of anger phobia: judgment and fear. Judgment can le…

Tara Schmidt, a licensed marriage and family therapist, gives more real-life examples of communicating better in a family. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Tara Schmidt, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, joins the podcast to share her wisdom and advice on relationships. The episode explores essential aspects of relationships, focusing on presence, trauma, attachment, and effective communication. The Importance of Presence: Presence is crucial in relationships, as trauma often stems from past w…

This insightful episode delves into the transformative power of naming your emotions. Join us as we explore why identifying and labeling your negative and positive feelings can be a game-changer for your emotional well-being. Discover the Harvard-developed emotions list and learn how it can guide you toward greater emotional awareness. By the end o…

Podcast Title: Resentment-Free Relationship Podcast Episode Title: Relationship Repair Guide Show Notes: In this episode of the Resentment-Free Relationship Podcast, the host shares valuable insights on repairing relationships without falling into the people-pleasing trap. Here's what you'll learn: Acknowledging Hurt and Pain: Discover the importan…

How to create a new habit. The "USED" Acronym: U: Understand Doctrine, Principle, and Application. S: Start Small and Simple. E: Experiment to Find What Works. D: Drop Self-Judgment. Applying the "USED" Framework: Practical examples of applying the framework to daily life. Conclusion: Encouraging listeners to use the "USED" framework to follow prin…

Episode Title: The Perfectionism Trap: Discovering the Path to Self-Acceptance Episode Description: In this episode, join Becky, your host, as she dives into the intricate realm of perfectionism. Sharing her personal experiences, Becky opens up about her battles with perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing—challenges many can relate to.…

In this episode, you will learn a powerful 4-step process that can help you change your reality. Becky shares tools that can help you to implement these steps, such as breath work, journaling, and meditation. If you are ready to change your reality, listen to this episode and learn how to use these powerful tools to create the life you want. Sign u…

Setting boundaries is an important part of taking care of ourselves. But it can be difficult, especially if we're used to putting the needs of others before our own. When we set a boundary, we may feel guilty, angry, or scared. These negative feelings are normal, but they don't mean that we're doing the wrong thing. --- Send in a voice message: htt…

This episode offers 5 healthy ways to deal with family members you don't like. The good news is you don't have to like them to start creating a healthier dynamic right now. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

In this episode, we explore the paradox of decision-making. On the one hand, we know that making decisions is essential to living a fulfilling life. On the other hand, we often find ourselves paralyzed by fear, indecision, or the feeling that there is no right answer. We discuss the different factors influencing our decision-making, including our t…

Becky discusses the Enneagram personality type 2, also known as the Helper. She talks about the key traits of type 2, both positive and negative, and how type 2s can grow and transform. Becky also shares her personal experience as a type 2 and offers tips for other type 2s looking to improve their lives. The podcast is packed with valuable informat…

How to make Progress? Celebrate each step as you move forward. Acknowledge small wins. Reflect on your progress. Celebrate your small wins. Check out my new Website www.beckysmithcoaching.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Tune in to explore the delicate balance between belonging to others and being true to yourself. Learn how knowing your own wants, setting boundaries, and building emotional tolerance will set you free from Resentment. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message…

Learn how the lies we tell ourselves can imprison us. It is beautiful to realize that you are in charge of your own personal freedom, no one else. The president, Congress, Supreme Court, or even the Constitution cannot entirely grant you freedom. Freedom is an inside job. Set yourself free by clicking the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45…

Discover "Resentment Free Relationships": Uncover the secrets to stronger connections without resentment. If you're tired of feeling anxious, frustrated, judged, hurt, or resentful in your relationships then this is the episode for you. Schedule a free 20-minute call and start your "Resentment-Free Relationship" today. https://calendly.com/believef…

Learn three practical strategies to handle difficult situations with grace: finding the truth, embracing discomfort, and focusing on the positive. Improve your personal and family relationships by tuning in, and start owning it with grace today! Click for your free fix my Relationships Call https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 --- Send in a voice…

This episode explores the fine line between conflict and contention and why understanding this difference is crucial in relationships. Awareness is the first step in handling conflict with grace and fostering healthier relationships. Are you ready to resolve your conflicts before they become contentious sign up for my free Fix Your Relationship cal…

Join us as we explore the importance of accepting and learning from bad days in this episode. Becky shares her personal experience and highlights the value of allowing ourselves to feel emotions without judgment. Discover how curiosity and acceptance can lead to valuable insights on embracing life's ups and downs with grace. --- Send in a voice mes…

Learn why recreation matters, and how it can help you re-create your marriage. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

Becky gives you some language to think of yourself and to think of motherhood in a different way. One that's maybe a little more truthful, that's a little less perfectionistic, and one that can kind of shatter that pedestal and that idea, and bring it back down to the real world that we live in. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spoti…

Welcome to Short and Sweet. The segment where I'm here to give you a quick dose of inspiration. I'll be sharing a tip. Tool strategy or just some food for thought. All in bite-sized portions. Whether you're on the go or need a quick pick-me-up, I've got you covered. This week. Feeling stuck. Look for the judgment. --- Send in a voice message: https…

Introducing a new segment called Short and Sweet. It will be just what it sounds like. Just a few things that are on my mind. Maybe they're quick wins. Maybe they're a little bit of inspiration or aha moments that I've had during the week. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message…

Life coach Nancy Taylor shares tips and advice on managing your time as a work-at-home mom. We'll discuss common challenges, prioritizing, minimizing distractions, self-care, and avoiding burnout. Join us for this informative episode and learn from Nancy's wisdom and experience. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/b…

In this podcast, Becky talks about celebrating personal achievements, conquering the fear of self-promotion, and daring to dream big. Sign up for the dream big retreat. https://polite-band-851.myflodesk.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message

As moms, we're often expected to be our families' heroes, taking on their burdens and solving their problems. But what if there was a better way? In this episode, you will learn how to shift your mindset from helping and fixing to empowering and supporting. So, moms, are you ready to serve without sacrificing your well-being? Tune in to this episod…

In this episode, we're joined by certified Life Coach Nicole Ellis to talk about fatherhood and how dads can go from just surviving to thriving at home. If you constantly fight the same battles and feel like you need to be on guard all the time, this is the episode for you. Discover how to succeed at home and create a life for you and your family t…