Episode 46: My Year of Being Bad with "Ray"

The Good Mood Podcast

I think we're starving. Not for food per se, but something else. Something deeper. Something perhaps more nourishing (once you have enough food, of course). We're starving for pleasure. And this can show up with low appetite. Think about how if all you ate was the gruel porridge they were eating in the Matrix you probably wouldn't be that interested in food anymore. We're hungry for pleasure and adventure and because we're often missing these things, or don't know how to get them or if we deserve them, we go without. We start to lose our appetite, our libido, our energy, our vitality.

We might fall into patterns of despair and hopelessness or irritability and resentment.

Ray (named changed to protect her and her family's privacy) noticed this. She noticed she needed JUICE. And so, she spent a year "being bad". What does that mean? Well I asked her and she responded, "Sex, drugs and rock and roll of course!" And so right away you can probably tell that this is a juicy episode.

It's also an incredibly inspiring episode. Pleasure is beauty personified. It starts with the body. Can you enjoy the feeling and the look of your own body? Can you recognize it as an element of nature, no more or less perfect than a flower, a tree, or a pond? Ray went on this journey, learning how to feel into her physical experience, to lean into life. Into pleasure. She did this through exploring plant medicines, her sexuality (which takes her to the world of erotic and kink).

We talk beauty, sex, spirituality, motherhood, embodiment, libido, pleasure, and many other things. It truly is a juicy episode AND I believe that no matter where you are in your journey, we could all learn to embrace body acceptance, to experience our bodies as a vehicle for our personal connection, pleasure and adventure, and learn to inhabit our experience.

So many of us are in the roles of working, or serving others, putting ourselves and our needs last. And we felt spent, exhausted and unfulfilled. What would it mean to put down that bowl of gruel and serve yourself some delicious, spicy gingery JUICE? Listen in and let's explore.

Ray supports women and non-binary people to connect with their pleasure and power. These are your birthright. She is a facilitator, writer, and small “i” intuitive. She draws on training in emotional bodywork (body psychotherapy), and health science. She’s also inspired by her exploration of conscious kink, fantasies and dreams, and sacred sexuality. Ray is dedicated to the healing power of Eros.

You can learn more about her at her website:

badgirlwisdom.ca