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How often have you seen this scenario with your female athlete...
She had a pretty good game. Maybe she competed well and did a lot of great things. However, she can’t stop thinking and talking about that ONE mistake she made.
She's playing it over and over in her head and beating herself up.
I used to be the same way as an athlete! It never seemed like anything was “good enough.” I would get a career high number of kills in a match, but go home feeling disappointed because I hit one ball out.
I know many athletes who feel the same way.
So, if your athlete feels the need to always be perfect, listen up! We're going to dig into how athletes can reframe their success to feel confident no matter how they play.
#1: Set process-oriented goals
Often, athletes want to set result-oriented goals. For example: Score 15 points in a game, get a perfect score, or achieve a certain benchmark.
While these are good things to aim for, result-oriented goals end up cutting an athlete’s confidence. They are usually strict, restrictive, and often dependent on many other factors that might be out of an athlete’s control (like the refs, opponents, teammates, etc…)
Instead, athletes should focus on changing these outcomes to process-oriented goals.
Focusing on process goals can actually help athletes outperform their original outcome goal!
#2: Redefine Success
What I see often is that athletes have a narrow view of “success.” Usually, they define success as…
- Not making mistakes
- Scoring a certain number of points
Like we mentioned previously, defining success as only outcome-oriented can leave an athlete never feeling like she’s good enough.
This is not to say that athletes shouldn’t have big goals, dreams, and visions for themselves.
But without reframing how they define success, athletes can feel like they are always in pursuit of something that doesn’t exist rather than finding joy, success, and progress in the process.
Athletes can redefine success to mean:
- Improvement (tracking and comparing performance over time)
- Reaching process-oriented goals (like the ones they set in step #1)
- Maintaining daily habits (including daily mental training routines)
- Mastery of new skills
- Learning from failure
- Recovering from mistakes faster
There’s so many more markers of success that go beyond scoring points or winning!
#3 - Have a solid post-competition routine
One of the key ways to allow athletes to process their performance in a healthy way (and to stop dwelling on everything they’ve done wrong) is to complete an intentional post-competition routine within 24 hours after competing.
Snag the post-competition routine we use with athletes in our programs here!
Your athlete is perfect exactly the way she is. Here's what she needs to know:
💗 You don’t need to perform to be loved.
💗 Your self-worth is not dependent on how many points you score.
💗 You are more than your sport.
💗 Being you is enough.
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