Feeling Unheard: 7 Steps to Help Your Loved One Listen

Renew You with Quinn Kelly

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In today’s episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them.

In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by:

1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication
2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well
3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation

Mind Renewal Tip:
Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person’s defensiveness.

Scripture Renewal Tip:
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15
7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman

1. Take responsibility
2. Complain without blame
3. Start with “I” Statements
4. Describe what is happening
5. Be polite
6. Be Appreciative
7. Don’t let things build up