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A Promise Kept (Part 1) - Robertson McQuilkin
A Promise Kept (Part 2) - Robertson McQuilkin

A Promise Kept (Part 3) - Robertson McQuilkin

A Promise Kept (Part 4) - Robertson McQuilkin

FamilyLife Today® Radio Transcript

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A Promise Kept

Day 4 of 4

Guest: Robertson McQuilkin

From the series: Our Future

Bob: What's the right response, the biblical response, when someone you love has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease? Do you take care of that person? Do you hire someone else to be the caregiver? For Dr. Robertson McQuilkin the decision was simple. He chose to take care of his wife Muriel. He realized it was his responsibility, not a responsibility that his children should bear.

Robertson: I've told Marty, who is my oldest daughter and who stays with Muriel when I have to leave town, I said, "Marty, now I do not want you to rearrange your life to care for your mother if I die before she does. I've got it fixed so you can put her in a care institution." She said, "I'm not going to do it. God put me here to take care of her." And I said, "Marty, I really want all of the children to go on with their life, and Mom won't know anything, so just" – she said, "Well, Dad, when you're dead you won't have any say, will you?"

[laughter]

Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Thursday, August 14th. Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. We'll talk today with Dr. Robertson McQuilkin about a Christian's responsibility in providing long-term care for a loved one. Stay tuned.

And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition. As we have been reflecting this week on an interview that we actually recorded nine years ago, Dennis, with Dr. Robertson McQuilkin, the former president of the Columbia International University and Seminary, who stepped down in 1990 to care for his wife, Muriel, after she had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. I've been thinking about the alcove down the hall from the studio where we have pictures of Dr. McQuilkin, and where we have a lighthouse that stands there to commemorate his sacrificial love for his wife, and we've had the opportunity over the years to honor a number of people who have demonstrated that same kind of sacrificial love and give them an award that bears his name.

Dennis: Right, and that lighthouse, Bob, that's down in the hall from here, stands on a 50-pound chunk of polished granite, and we picked out that granite because of its hardness, toughness, weight, and just the sheer mass that it represents, because the story we've been listening to all week here is a story of a light being set on a hill. It's the love of Christ being demonstrated between a husband and his wife when his wife couldn't care for him, couldn't speak with him, couldn't connect with him emotionally and spiritually.

And, you know, we have a lot of privileges here on FamilyLife Today, and when we get a chance to tell a story that exalts Jesus Christ; that talks practically about a tough situation where a husband fulfills his promise and his pledge to care for his wife, Bob, it just doesn't get any better than that, and that's why we created that award for Dr. McQuilkin and, as you mentioned, we've had a chance to give it to a half a dozen other people and honor them for toughness in their commitment and really keeping their covenant. That's what marriage is all about.

Bob: We're going to hear part 4 right now of the interview that we recorded back in 1999 with Dr. Robertson McQuilkin and, again, at that time his wife Muriel was still alive. She went home to be with the Lord in 2003. It was a real privilege to be able to interact with him about his selfless sacrificial love for her.

Bob: We've talked about this all week. We've talked about your decision to step down, to come home to be the full-time caretaker for your wife. We have folks listening to the broadcast who have made different decisions about care for a loved one, whether it's a husband, or a wife, an aging mother or father. They have chosen to bring in professional help or to provide for full-time care in a nursing facility. Do you think that's wrong for somebody to make that choice?

Robertson: Of course not. The touchstone for me is what is best for her. When there comes a time, either because of my health or hers, that someone else can care for her better than I, then painful as it will be to be separated – because, you know, her loving presence is there all day every day. I would miss that. But that's the touchstone. What would love do in this case? For example, if the roles were reversed, Muriel couldn't lift me. She couldn't put me in a wheelchair. She'd hang on as long as she could, but roles are different. It came at a time in life when I could do it. So, no. In fact, this is just a story. I'm not pushing an agenda, I'm not setting an example. I mean, you can kind of pick and choose and try to make something of it, but I'm just telling a story, and that's the way of joy for us.

Dennis: Yes, I think that's healthy for you to say – you don't have an agenda here – because, Bob, I think we have a generation of men and women who are part of the baby boom generation who are watching their parents age, and they do wonder – what is God's will here? How can I best care for my mother, my father and, in fact, I'm asking that question myself. My mom is 87 years of age, still able to live in her home, primarily because my brother lives near her. I think that's a good standard you've given us – the standard of what is best for the object of the love.

Robertson: Well, Dennis, you bring in the parental thing. I've told Marty, who is my eldest daughter and who stays with Muriel when I have to leave town. I said, "Marty, now I do not want you to rearrange your life to care for your mother if I die before she does. I've got it fixed so you can put her in a care institution." She said, "I'm not going to do it. God put me here to take care of her." And I said, "Marty, I really want all of the children to go on with their life, and Mom won't know anything, so just" – she said, "Well, Dad, when you're dead you won't have any say, will you?"

[laughter]

Bob: She is a chip off the old block, isn't she? The oak did not fall far from the tree in that case.

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A Promise Kept (Part 1) - Robertson McQuilkin
A Promise Kept (Part 2) - Robertson McQuilkin

A Promise Kept (Part 3) - Robertson McQuilkin

A Promise Kept (Part 4) - Robertson McQuilkin

FamilyLife Today® Radio Transcript

References to conferences, resources, or other special promotions may be obsolete.

A Promise Kept

Day 4 of 4

Guest: Robertson McQuilkin

From the series: Our Future

Bob: What's the right response, the biblical response, when someone you love has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease? Do you take care of that person? Do you hire someone else to be the caregiver? For Dr. Robertson McQuilkin the decision was simple. He chose to take care of his wife Muriel. He realized it was his responsibility, not a responsibility that his children should bear.

Robertson: I've told Marty, who is my oldest daughter and who stays with Muriel when I have to leave town, I said, "Marty, now I do not want you to rearrange your life to care for your mother if I die before she does. I've got it fixed so you can put her in a care institution." She said, "I'm not going to do it. God put me here to take care of her." And I said, "Marty, I really want all of the children to go on with their life, and Mom won't know anything, so just" – she said, "Well, Dad, when you're dead you won't have any say, will you?"

[laughter]

Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Thursday, August 14th. Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. We'll talk today with Dr. Robertson McQuilkin about a Christian's responsibility in providing long-term care for a loved one. Stay tuned.

And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition. As we have been reflecting this week on an interview that we actually recorded nine years ago, Dennis, with Dr. Robertson McQuilkin, the former president of the Columbia International University and Seminary, who stepped down in 1990 to care for his wife, Muriel, after she had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. I've been thinking about the alcove down the hall from the studio where we have pictures of Dr. McQuilkin, and where we have a lighthouse that stands there to commemorate his sacrificial love for his wife, and we've had the opportunity over the years to honor a number of people who have demonstrated that same kind of sacrificial love and give them an award that bears his name.

Dennis: Right, and that lighthouse, Bob, that's down in the hall from here, stands on a 50-pound chunk of polished granite, and we picked out that granite because of its hardness, toughness, weight, and just the sheer mass that it represents, because the story we've been listening to all week here is a story of a light being set on a hill. It's the love of Christ being demonstrated between a husband and his wife when his wife couldn't care for him, couldn't speak with him, couldn't connect with him emotionally and spiritually.

And, you know, we have a lot of privileges here on FamilyLife Today, and when we get a chance to tell a story that exalts Jesus Christ; that talks practically about a tough situation where a husband fulfills his promise and his pledge to care for his wife, Bob, it just doesn't get any better than that, and that's why we created that award for Dr. McQuilkin and, as you mentioned, we've had a chance to give it to a half a dozen other people and honor them for toughness in their commitment and really keeping their covenant. That's what marriage is all about.

Bob: We're going to hear part 4 right now of the interview that we recorded back in 1999 with Dr. Robertson McQuilkin and, again, at that time his wife Muriel was still alive. She went home to be with the Lord in 2003. It was a real privilege to be able to interact with him about his selfless sacrificial love for her.

Bob: We've talked about this all week. We've talked about your decision to step down, to come home to be the full-time caretaker for your wife. We have folks listening to the broadcast who have made different decisions about care for a loved one, whether it's a husband, or a wife, an aging mother or father. They have chosen to bring in professional help or to provide for full-time care in a nursing facility. Do you think that's wrong for somebody to make that choice?

Robertson: Of course not. The touchstone for me is what is best for her. When there comes a time, either because of my health or hers, that someone else can care for her better than I, then painful as it will be to be separated – because, you know, her loving presence is there all day every day. I would miss that. But that's the touchstone. What would love do in this case? For example, if the roles were reversed, Muriel couldn't lift me. She couldn't put me in a wheelchair. She'd hang on as long as she could, but roles are different. It came at a time in life when I could do it. So, no. In fact, this is just a story. I'm not pushing an agenda, I'm not setting an example. I mean, you can kind of pick and choose and try to make something of it, but I'm just telling a story, and that's the way of joy for us.

Dennis: Yes, I think that's healthy for you to say – you don't have an agenda here – because, Bob, I think we have a generation of men and women who are part of the baby boom generation who are watching their parents age, and they do wonder – what is God's will here? How can I best care for my mother, my father and, in fact, I'm asking that question myself. My mom is 87 years of age, still able to live in her home, primarily because my brother lives near her. I think that's a good standard you've given us – the standard of what is best for the object of the love.

Robertson: Well, Dennis, you bring in the parental thing. I've told Marty, who is my eldest daughter and who stays with Muriel when I have to leave town. I said, "Marty, now I do not want you to rearrange your life to care for your mother if I die before she does. I've got it fixed so you can put her in a care institution." She said, "I'm not going to do it. God put me here to take care of her." And I said, "Marty, I really want all of the children to go on with their life, and Mom won't know anything, so just" – she said, "Well, Dad, when you're dead you won't have any say, will you?"

[laughter]

Bob: She is a chip off the old block, isn't she? The oak did not fall far from the tree in that case.

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