The Focus Marriage Podcast features relatable advice on healthy marriage with stories from guest speakers that encourage every couple to build a deeper connection.
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Sex motivates us to be the men and women He wants us to be. Men have to discipline themselves to be more like Jesus for her to want to have sex with him. For a woman to desire sex, she has to be at peace, confident, and aligned with God's priorities in who/what gets her time. So, this podcast is directed towards women because often women are the organizers and they are the ones who tend to struggle to have passion. But what if there was a way to actually organize your life so that passion is a consistent desire and fulfilling activity? That's what I want to talk to you about. As Jesus followers, we are invited to do things that aren't the societal norms. I think that passion for women is fairly "natural" for the first 2-3 years of a relationship/marriage. And after that it requires intentionality. She just stops feeling it... nothing against that specific husband necessarily, she switches to life, busyness, mom - mode. And the attracting-that-guy-mode which heightened libido fades. BUT! As a wife you can organize your life, your thoughts, and your pursuits in a way that causes you to desire sex, but it requires intentionality for women. I vowed that on our wedding day, and it will never be negotiable. That's called exercising faithfulness to my marriage vows. Is it a "duty"? That's a gross way of thinking about loving a person---not to mention the most important person of your life. Is a husband accepting, encouraging, and listening to his wife's heart a duty? It would be gross if that's how he thought of it. But, both are expectations of faithfulness as a married person. Both are opportunities for them to bless each other and fulfill God's will at the same time. Blessings, Belah PS If you'd like to join the free training for women all about confidence in intimacy -- which will be available for a limited time -- go to delightyourmarriage.com/sc If you'd like to find other free resources go to delightyourmarriage.com/free