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How do you discipline kids who have experienced trauma? We provide 5 tips and then discuss 5 challenging parenting situations. Our expert is Karen Doyle Buckwalter, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist and Supervisor, and co-author of "Raising the Challenging Child".
In this episode, we cover:
1. The Relationship Bank Account
- Spend effort building your relationship with your child so that you have banked “good will” for when you need to say no or set a firm rule.
- Ideas for making quick and easy deposits:
- Praise efforts, successes, helpfulness, their unique essence—big and small.
- Let the child choose whenever possible.
- Look for compromises.
- Make more deposits than withdrawals.
- Magic “rule” 5 positive comments to every 1 negative.
- Difference between making a deposit and spoiling your child.
- Sideswipe instead of confront.
2. Respond to What is Beneath the Behavior
- Behavior is a reflection of a need. It’s a symptom.
- Strategies for digging deeper into what is underneath the behavior.
3. Reexamine Your Expectations
- See your child for who she is.
4. Balancing Structure and Nurture
- How does structure lead to feelings of safety and why is this often misunderstood when parenting children with a history of trauma?
- Choose your battles: choose to ignore some behaviors.
5. Share Power to Gain Power
- Name calling and teasing
- Handle attention seeking behaviors.
- Sexualized Behavior and Play
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