In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with Anita Nesbit - a connector and content strategist, living and working in Cape Town with her husband and two children. She works to create impactful content that drives brand engagement and growth, liaises with clients and teams, does the school drop and finds moments to walk on the beach and breathe. …

This week several things happened that illustrate an important aspect of experiencing peace within relationships. MAUDE: My older son and his wife just purchased a condo in Mammoth. They decided to celebrate that with the family and invited us all … How to Replace Blame With Honesty in Your Relationships Read More »…

Hi, Phil and Maude here. We had a conversation the other evening about a different way to respond to the variance between each of us. We like, recorded it on a phone and, um, kind of cleaned it up a … A New Way to Look at Differences in Relationships Read More »โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

MAUDE: One of the many things that happened this week was a visit from a very dear friend, who stayed with us for over a week. This visit was profound, yet simple and easy at the same time. It gave … How It’s Possible to Practice Acceptance in Your Relationships Read More »โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

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We often read snappy articles that instruct us to "manage our stress". Hmm, that can be irritating to read as a highly educated smart adult human who needs to earn money and care for small humans (or big ones). What does it actually mean? How do we do that in a busy life? As a burnout prevention and leadership coach I spend a lot of time working wi…

PHIL: We had a couple of heart-to-heart conversations this week; one about desires on my part, and one about the desires of Maude. I don’t want to describe them because they both involved other people, and the point of mentioning … How to Remove Tension and Find Peace in Your Relationships Read More »…

PHIL: I want to jam on the idea that all people are different. No one is exactly like anyone else. So in your relationships, especially the close ones, you’re going to run into differences. They’re inevitable. The fact that the … How to Embrace Differences, Not Trip Over Them Read More »โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

MAUDE: In our post last week, we wrote about the struggles we have all been going through in the tense situation before this country’s election, the raging wars in the world, climate change, and the overall uncertainty and anxiety caused … It’s Important to Know You Can Choose Peaceful Relationships Read More »…

In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with a former colleague who has moved across and lived in many countries with her husband, children and dog and works long days as a regional manager for a busy team. In this conversation she shares some of her experience around balancing work and life and health. We talk about prioritising. delegating, (o…

We share an inner peace that is beyond any of the effects of the changing world we live in. This path of peace never wavers and serves to strengthen our individual struggles. Find and create a Sacred Space for yourself. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Speaking directly doesn’t happen naturally because we all create a persona for the outside world. It’s easy to take that feeling into a relationship, but here’s why that is a bad idea: it’s a limitation on feeling our full self; we cannot sit comfortably at the center of our being. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Today is our wedding anniversary and it brought us to reflect on what we have learned about the potentials of all relationships from the experience of ours. Here are our musings on just that for our blog this week. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Yesterday was The International Day of Peace. It’s a great time to think of what you are doing within your own life to make peace a living reality. Here’s an example of one of our favorite projects: I Declare World … Peace in a Relationship—How Can it Change the World? Read More »โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

One of the steps to a peaceful relationship is honesty. When you share honestly with another, you set aside fears and defenses. You can share a bit and when you are accepted and respected, when you feel seen and heard, you dare to open a bit more. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work, Family, Me, I sat down with Allison Wimalasuriya from Australia. Allison Wimalasuriya is an Australian woman in her thirties who works in the corporate world as a manager of employees, deadlines, and clients, studies pilates, parents an active toddler, exercises every day and is in an intercultural marriage. Hmm. How do the…

One of the signs of a peaceful relationship is when the element of service to the other person is a core value for that relationship. Learning what this is takes paying attention to the other person, and being open to listen and hear what they might need or want for support. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Every relationship feels entirely different when you are truly present in it. This difference can be recognized by both parties, whether consciously or unconsciously. When you have the experience of each person being present, many of the fears that people bring to relationships dissolve. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

When we are in the day to day it feels hard to raise our heads and look at the big picture. We're IN the school drop offs, the rushing to get on a call, the pressure of the project. One of the things that I found so valuable about this conversation with Fiona Moguenot is her perspective of looking back on working and parenting from the vantage poin…

The most important element to creating and maintaining peaceful relationships is that both people share peace as a central Core Value. This is not having thoughts of peace in some theoretical sense; it is experiencing peace as a visceral reality. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Most relationships will blossom when they have acceptance, appreciation and acknowledgment as an underpinning. In any relationship, it is important to be accepted for who we are, to be appreciated for who we are, and to be acknowledged for who we are. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

We talk A LOT about work life balance at the moment and one key of this is being intentional about separating out work time vs not work time. SO many of my 1:1 clients have very blurry lines - or no lines at all - around what work is and with hybrid flexible working, constant e-mails, multiple time zones and pressures that is no surprise. Not havin…

The extent to which you have a feeling of support in your relationships will determine your sense of calm, serenity and peace. It consists of both giving and receiving. There is joy in this sense of mutual support. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

All too often, people become so used to the contact and connection in their relationships that they start to take them for granted. You stop really noticing the experience of that connection; how it makes you feel, why you treasure it, why it’s so important. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with Shiivani Aggarwal from Delhi, India. She is the CEO of Formula Group, a woman in her 40s, and a mother of a 4-year-old boy. Despite her long days in the office, she manages to spend time with friends and family and eat healthy food! Tune in to learn how she does it. Listen to hear… What balance means …

Watch for the dangers we all face every day of succumbing to doubt, loss of hope, or just plain tiredness. Turn to your relationships. Listen to the quiet and strength of hope you can find within yourself and each other. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Speaking your position that has two benefits. The fact of putting it into words makes it much clearer, and the more specific the words are the clearer you can be. And having spoken it, you can start to move past it. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I chat with Marie O’Neill - the Irish co-owner and Managing Director of EER, one of the Middle East’s leading relocation, immigration, and corporate services companies. Marie is also a mother to two girls (one a very newborn baby), a wife, a conference attendee and speaker, a board member in Industry Organisations…

Peaceful relationships can come down to whether or not you speak with respect, love and kindness in your tone of voice and basic attitude, as this kind of communication creates an environment of calm, openness and comfort. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

You know the feeling of being at odds with another person? Don't go there in the first place, and if you're in there, get out. Don’t just look at what the other person is doing; look at what you are doing, too. Focus on finding a resolution that works for both of you. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

We have a direct experience of a peaceful relationship, we’ve had it since our early days, and it has remained completely consistent. It is so different from our previous relationships that we feel compelled to write about it. Our message is that it exists, therefore it is possible. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Trust comes from openness and sharing, being interested in who the other person is, interacting without being defensive, wishing the best possible outcome for each other, and coming from love, not fear. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

When you are in a conflict, stop, center yourself, breathe, and ask yourself what is important here. This pulls you into the present and gives you the opportunity to stop being reactive, and instead, choose a better way to respond. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

We often talk about the later stages of burnout, the results, the exhaustion, the depression, the physical collapse. We don't talk so much about the thinking patterns, behavioural changes and phases prior to that. In this short (20 min-ish) solo episode I share with you the 12 stages of burnout as coined by Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North in t…

It is a common belief that conflicts are inevitable even in the most loving of relationships, but when the underlying needs are examined, it is nearly always possible to find a mutual solution. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

The sense of loving connection between two people is the heart of every relationship. It is important to take the time to feel and recognize the connection, and to develop the sense of what makes each one precious and unique in its own way. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I chat with Sybille. She works as an immigration manager for a successful tech company and balances her job with parenting, a partner who works shifts, a consistent yoga practice, and a passion for music. Listen to hear perspectives on… impacts of affordable childcare (and the lack thereof) on choices limited soci…

Why aren’t people totally honest with each other? Maybe they think it will cause strife in the relationship. But strife isn’t the only reason for not being honest; shame is, too. There is something you are uncomfortable sharing, but you need to regard honesty as more important than shame. Read more ›…

When you are in the present with another person, it is a palpable experience. You can strongly feel when someone is actually there with you, just as you can feel when they are not. Share your inner life with the other person for the best possible relationship. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with Tanja McCandie. She is a Canadian national living, working, and parenting in Japan. She works as an associate professor, advocates for gender and teacher development, and handles homework, laundry, and baseball games while her husband works abroad. Listen to hear two “difficult women” discuss: Feminis…

The importance of letting people know you see and appreciate them carries into all encounters. You can make a person’s day just by saying thank you or smiling at them. It doesn’t take much effort and makes a world of difference. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

The more you have the experience of peace, the living experience of it, the more you will be attracted to it. It is such an exquisite sensation that it’s very attractive. The more you experience it, the more you know the path to get to that place. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I talk about a very common emotion that crops up in these conversations with working women and with my hard-working 1:1 clients in general...GUILT. Listen to hear… What the point of guilt is! An important differentiation to make for yourself. How to use guilt productively Some examples and challenges A 4-step proc…

We show respect by the way we treat each other: by our tone of voice, our willingness to listen, to accept the inevitable differences of personality and behavior. We show it by our love and our kindness; by the empathy we feel and the warmth, safety and comfort we give. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

One of the things that often causes misunderstandings in relationships is perceived slights. These are small things, but if you are not communicating openly and honestly, these presumed slights may slowly turn into a mountain of accumulated wrongdoings. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I chat with Johanna Lennartson. Johanna is a Swedish woman in her early 40s who lives in Stockholm with her partner and two daughters and works full-time as an MD. Listen to hear… Some strategies for saying yes to your children (even when the to do list feels endless) A very unusual mindset around doing dishes (an…

There are multiple ways to solve a problem. Once you share the same values with someone, you can deal with decisions and disagreements without generating rancor, and by exploring, you can find a solution that works for both of you. Read more ›โดย Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

A close relationship is fundamentally different from others as it is built upon openness and honesty, both in sharing and accepting. This creates trust, which allows you to be more open, which creates more trust, and so on. When you are not actively creating conflict, you can actively create peace. Read more ›…