My explanation of living with borderline personality disorder and social anxiety.
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A personal yet informative talk about the impact gender plays into those diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder as well as general information on borderline personality disorder.
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My life with Borderline Personality Disorder Cover art photo provided by Rangus Moiboi on Unsplash: https://unsplash.com/@rangusmoiboi
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BPD is a personality disorder which the major cause isn’t discovered yet and it exist in a lot of people that are not aware... however there are traits which I’ll be discussing about
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You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
Torie Wiksell
Psychotherapist and Coach, Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about challenging and dysfunctional family dynamics. In addition to specializing in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders as both a therapist and coach, Torie grew up with a mother who had unmanaged borderline personality disorder (BPD) and quite a few narcissistic traits. Torie has spent a significant portion of her 11+ year career as a therapist working with clien ...
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I'm a wife, mother, grandmother AND have lived with BPD for my entire life. I've been ashamed of this & kept it as hidden as possible. I've just come out of the Mental Health closet & am taking responsibility for my recovery & accountability for my past behaviours. I want it fixed. I'm not talking about coping skills, I'm talking about digging down to the root cause and adjusting the distorted core belief that "MY FEELINGS ARE IRRELEVANT & SHAMEFUL, DEVOID OF WORTH & THEREFORE SO AM I MYSELF ...
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For the next 48 hours, you can grab a copy of my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent or purchase The Boundaries Roadmap, my self-guided online course for effective boundary setting with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder for 50% off! No coupon code needed. All payment plans for the The Boundaries …
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Deciding Whether to Set Boundaries or Go No-Contact with Your Toxic Parent
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In today's episode, I discuss whether you should set boundaries or go no contact with a parent who has unmanaged borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. We'll explore the emotional exhaustion that often leads to the choice of going no contact and the societal pressures that can make you doubt this decision. Full disclosure- the audio on th…
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Stop Being Vulnerable with Your BPD/NPD Parent
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Emotionally vulnerability with a parent who has unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder is always a bad idea. But, it's hard to not get sucked into those feel good moments- so what should you do? Listen to this episode of "You're Not Crazy" to hear my thoughts on the many complicated layers of being emotionall…
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How to Get Unstuck When All Your Options Suck
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Feeling stuck in a relationship with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder can be overwhelming. The fear of triggering them can leave you feeling paralyzed and like you have no options. But here’s the thing: doing nothing is making a choice—and it’s probably not the one that serves you best. In this episode, I share pract…
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Becoming a Parent Myself Has Made Me Less Sympathetic to My Own Mom
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Today I share about my own childhood growing up with a narcissistic parent. I talk about why it's been such a struggle for me to really accept my mother's narcissism and how becoming a parent myself has made me much less sympathetic to my mother's poor parenting journey. Also, thank you to all of our new Patreon members! I'm so excited to see the Y…
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Being Kind to Yourself is Hard When You Grow Up with Emotionally Unpredictable Parents
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In this episode, we talk about self-compassion and why it is so hard to develop for adults who grew up with emotionally unpredictable parents. I dive deep into why an emotionally safe space is essential for developing self-compassion and ways you can practice being kinder to yourself starting today. Support the show Join me in the You're Not Crazy …
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In this week's special bonus episode, I share about how this little podcast that could is growing- thanks to you! Whether you're seeking extra support, insightful Q&A sessions, or just some good company on bi-monthly Zoom chats, our brand-new Patreon community has got you covered. But, don't worry- our weekly Tuesday podcasts aren't going anywhere!…
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You Asked, I Answered: A Q&A Episode
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In this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I answer the questions you sent in about dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Hear my thoughts, advice, personal experiences, and more in the first question and answer episode of the podcast! Support the show Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community: https:/…
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5 Skills to Learn as an Adult After Growing Up with a Parent Who Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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What happens when the very people meant to guide and nurture you leave you questioning your own emotions and self-worth? On this episode of You're Not Crazy, we tackle the complex aftermath of being raised by parents with borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorders, unraveling the mystery of how this impacts our adult lives. Listen for adv…
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Yah, Your Parent is Probably Lying to Their Therapist
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Today, I'm talking about the frustrating reality of dealing with parents who continue to display toxic behaviors despite years of therapy. I share a personal story about my own mother who insisted her therapist told her she no longer needed therapy. Then, I discuss why some therapists are not be equipped to work with clients who have personality di…
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Understanding Therapy vs Coaching: Navigating Relationships with Borderline and Narcissistic Parents
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Today I share my journey from being a skeptic of the coaching industry to launching my own coaching business, Confident Boundaries, earlier this year. You'll hear about my initial frustrations with the unregulated nature of coaching, especially during the COVID-19 boom, and how I came to recognize a pressing need for accessible support for adults w…
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This week, I tell you why I absolutely refuse to help you suppress your emotional reactions to your parent's toxic behaviors. Listen to hear me out and why I instead recommend focusing on setting boundaries with your parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder. Also, I share why this episode is a little late! As always- thank…
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Radical Acceptance: Understanding and Coping with Parents Who Have Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
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So sorry this episode was up a little late- thanks for bearing with me! Can you really accept a painful reality without liking it? In this episode of "You're Not Crazy" I share why radical acceptance, a crucial skill for adult children dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, can help you do just that. Unders…
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Self-Help Gurus: Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family Makes You a Target for Their BS
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This week on You're Not Crazy, I chat about why I loathe the Tony Robbins of the world and why you need to be careful about being the target of charismatic people who want to exploit you. Growing up with parents affected by borderline or narcissistic personality disorders can distort our sense of self and intuition, making us prime targets for re-t…
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Common Issues That Get in the Way of Setting Boundaries with Difficult Parents
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Ever feel paralyzed by the thought of setting a boundary, let alone enforcing it? You’re not alone. Many of us didn't grow up witnessing healthy boundary-setting, and it can feel like an insurmountable task to learn it as an adult (but good news- it's not!). In this episode, I discuss practical steps and strategies to help you navigate the path tow…
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Parental Manipulation: Let's Talk About It.
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Let's talk about common forms of parental manipulation and abuse. Today, we pull back the curtain on the dysfunctional tactics employed by parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Has your reality has been twisted through gaslighting? Were family rivalries created through triangulation? Today's episode reveals how guilt-tripp…
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It's Me, Hi, I'm the Problem, It's Me
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Can trauma from growing up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder shape the way you see yourself? On this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I'm pulling back the curtain on my own experiences growing up as the child of a parent with unmanaged BPD. For years, I worried that I might have borderline personality disorder (BPD) m…
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Thinking about going no contact with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder? Be careful about how you execute that plan and what advice you follow—a recommendation by a popular therapist YouTuber of sending a letter is probably the worst idea I've ever heard. Join me, Torie Wiksell, as I unpack why this seemingly empowerin…
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Navigating Toxic Family Dynamics: Finding the Right Therapist for You
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Finding the right therapist can feel like navigating a minefield, especially when you're dealing with the complexities of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Ever been told to maintain contact with toxic family members because it's "good for your mental health"? I have, and let me tell you, it was eye-opening—and not in a…
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Anger’s Great…Just Hear Me Out
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What if understanding your anger could be the key to your emotional freedom? Join me, Torie Wiksell, on "You're Not Crazy" as we explore the intricate and often terrifying relationship that adult children of parents with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) have with anger. Growing up in these environmen…
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Welcome to You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders. Hosted by therapist and coach Torie Wiksell, this podcast is dedicated to those who have grown up trying to navigate the complicated and challenging realities of having a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality…
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Why do some parents claim they had no idea their adult child would cut them off? Discover the reasons behind this disconnect when adult children going no contact with their parents in this episode of "You're Not Crazy." I'm Torie Wiksell, your host and a seasoned therapist and coach, and today we unpack the complex dynamics that lead to family estr…
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37. Silence is Golden, or is it?
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses how silence can be used as a manipulation. punishment and control tacticโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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36. Emotions are NOT the Enemy
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses the patterns and aggression with our emotionsโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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35. Growing up by Gaslight & Dancing the Gaslight Tango
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses how parents that Gaslight their children prime them or groom them to live in gaslighting relationshipsโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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34. Parent Pleaser to People Pleaser
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses the root cause of people Pleasing as a coping mechanismโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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33. My Special Guest Vanessa
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Shamala Del Rosario and special guest Vanessa discuss the life changing insights from The Last Symptom Fundamentals Course and being members of the alumni group. Course information can be found at www.thelastsymptom.comโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses why our feelings matterโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses Distorted Core Beliefsโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses lying to deny the reality of a situation to protect from hurtโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses receiving issues. Also please see YouTube link to info on Fundamentals Course https://youtu.be/rSWZAwI-vYEโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses relationships with emotionally unhealthy parentsโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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27. The flavour of feelings
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses the similarities of tasting and feelingโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses using "i can't" and "I won't" honestlyโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses over apologising and apology avoidanceโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses shame of poopingโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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23. Loving, Living with & Losing a mother to BPD
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Shamala Del Rosario dedicates & narrates Sarah Haufrect's beautifully articulated and heartfelt words describing the impact BPD and her mother's suicideโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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22. Playing the Game of Blame & Shame
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses the Game of Blame & Shame. When something doesn't go to plan what is your first thought? Do you immediately figure out who is at fault?โดย Shamala Del Rosario
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21. Tickling Torture - Boundary Breaker
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses laughter - it's not always a signal of enjoyment.โดย Shamala Del Rosario
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20. Is this the definition of insanity?
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses doing the exact same thing over and over whilst expecting a different outcomeโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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19. Boundaries - what boundaries?
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses misperceptions about boundariesโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses an upcoming Notts TV interview to raise awareness of Borderline Personality Disorderโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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17. Conquering Mount Everest
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses an early misperception about the true nature of feelings, self and lifeโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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16. The poetry of logical ideas
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses intuitive misperceptions about mathematicsโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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15. Feelings under lock and key
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Shamala Del Rosario recalls repressing feeling to protect from hurtโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses subconscious shame of cryingโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses irritability and hidden shameโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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12. My Passive Aggressive Behaviour
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses passive aggressive behaviour to avoid confrontation.โดย Shamala Del Rosario
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11. What is rational thinking?
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses rational thoughtsโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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10 Wow, was that a false start?
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Shamala Del Rosario discusses rapid thought process and the magnetic negative pullโดย Shamala Del Rosario
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