Managing Relationships with Others


Manage episode 298076413 series 1341557
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Show Notes

  • [0:00:39] Episode Summary | Intro

  • Jeremy gets “folksy”.
  • All relationships take work and conscious effort to make them affective.
    • This applies to work, family, and friends.
    • You’re managing relationships, even when you’re not.

  • [0:06:06] Diving Into Managing Relationships Well

  • Communication Mistakes
    • We often go in NOT assuming the best.
      • Whether you’re sick, maybe you slept poorly, etc.
      • We’ve found that very-very rarely does anyone actually have any ill intent going into their interactions.
      • Assume the best!
      • With the advent of social media dominance, the world at large right now needs to come together and acknowledge there are MANY more individuals with you than against you.
        • And those people want peace, kindness, equality, and much more for themselves and others.
  • If you are going to manage your relationships well, you’re going to have to listen.
    • Listening is a skill that takes effort, and it’s not one people come by naturally.
    • Listening isn’t, and shouldn’t be used as, a gateway to counter points, attacks, and conversational dominance.
      • The goal is to listen twice as much as you talk.
  • Questions are key.
    • To great benefit, asking the right questions after engaged listening can unlock a lot of mutual understanding and trust.
      • But questions shouldn’t come veiled with “gotcha” scenarios painted in, and should never be used to set someone up for failure.

  • [0:13:25] Other Thoughts on Managing Relationships

  • Relationships aren’t one and done, they’re ongoing.
    • Intention and ongoing effort are required.
    • Some relationships come easier than others, and sometimes that’s a good thing.
      • Though we do have to be careful about spending all our time and efforts on what comes easy, while letting other relationships slip up.
  • Respond, don’t react.
    • Teaching yourself to think about your response is always worth the investment.
  • The best relationships work when you don’t have the walled off facade in the way.
    • Measure this for yourself and context is important.
      • But there is something to say for being honest and sharing your feelings in earnest.
        • Otherwise bitterness becomes the poison you drink...assuming the other person will get sick.
  • Sometimes you just have to be humble and apologize.
    • Too often work relationships fall apart because of one person or the other refusing to be wrong or accept the blame.
      • Some of this can be from a toxic work culture, but a lot of it can be prevented.

  • On that note, if you come from a toxic work culture, let us know!
  • We want to help you get out of that, or improve that situation; and we have a network of amazing professionals who just might be able to help.

  • Be a person and place that is safe to fail around.
    • We can’t improve without failing.
      • Help others navigate failure and acknowledge efforts of others with grace and humility.

  • [0:23:57] Sometimes we make mistakes when we should know better…

  • It’s easy to just pile on, try offering support.
    • We all need allies, not enemies. So put that supportive energy out in to the world and help others rather than ridicule.
  • Unspoken expectations are the landmines of all relationships.
    • Assume the best, but don’t assume others know your expectations of them.
    • Communicating expectations is so very important; the sooner the better!

  • [0:28:45] Parting Words

  • Spend time thinking and being intentional about your relationships in your life today, and the ones you wish could be better.
    • Then ask how you can improve yourself to meet those relationship goals.

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